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How long do you think a person should wait to start dating after ending a longterm (over 2 yrs) relationship? Should they wait 3 months? 6 months? Should they even wait at all? Would it depend on if they are looking for something long term or a one nightstand? How soon is too soon? Maybe it depends on why the prior relationship ended? Looking for answers to these tough questions? Follow this link to www.prelationship.com to get expert dating advice from around the web.

Remember, there are no set rules on the time when a person should move on in my opinion. I think it depends on the person. Everyone is different.  People should not judge others and let folks be themselves when they decide. I believe in encouragement or positive feedback on taking time to heal but I think ultimately individuals should do what they want in order to be happy or to simply learn a valuable lesson for their future. My recommendation is to give “time” time. Give it time & heal. Some people can move on faster than others.

If you were in love with the person at the time of the break up - then you definitely need to wait until you can safely say you are free in your heart. Jumping into something new will only hurt the next person and that’s just not right. Then again, it also depends on how and why the prior relationship ended.  It could have been a long time coming and if you’re ready who’s to say what’s a good time for you. Again, just make sure you are healed.

How do you stop loving someone who you are DEEPLY in love with, but for various reasons the relationship doesn’t work. You love them but you can’t be with them? How do you turn off your emotions? Especially when you have to see this person everyday, Here’s some breakup advice that will help you get over it and move on.

It’s obvious that you must limit your interaction with this person. NO more phone calls. With time, any emotional attachment and feelings will subside after a while. Detach yourself from the delusion first. You need to come to realization that you two can’t be together. Not sure why you got yourself in this situation to begin with, BUT you’re there, so how you do release yourself from a painful reality?

First remove all things that remind you of this person; any pictures, phone messages, text messages etc.. If  you see this person daily at work for instance, walk the other way. Keep it professional no matter how hard it is. Concentrate and utilize mind over matter.

Remember, it’s never easy to turn your emotions off. You can’t help it. Start filling that void with something else to occupy your time. Don’t read a book, its useless. You’re not gonna be able to concentrate.  Go out and be amongst your friends.

Because you are “Deeply” in love, sex probably played a factor. Needless to say you must show restraint. Don’t continue to have sex anymore. You have to be strong.  Understand you are only setting yourself up to get hurt. You have to take the first step if you don’t want to feel this yearning and desire anymore. Only you have control over your feelings and emotions. Don’t look to the person you are dealing with to help you with this.

But if you are seeing a married man-STOP NOW! Do yourself a favor. He is not gonna leave his wife. Don’t get caught up. You know better. If you are married, same advice. I hope your spouse doesn’t find out. But seriously, you must find a way to detach yourself.

Personally, you will be fine. Forgive yourself and love yourself enough not to get caught up in a situation like this again. The healing process is not gonna be easy.  Have patience. Don’t be too hard on yourself but get out now. Save your sanity and your dignity. Find someone you can be with without stipulations.

So many people are in relationships that have gone bad but instead of breaking up, dealing with reality and moving on they stay  in the relationship trying to salvage what they can. This is simply because they refuse to acknowledge the signs that the relationship is over.  Here’s some quick breakup advice for those in this situation. Here are some signs to look for to let you know, for a fact, that a relationship is over.

It is usually assumed that the job of keeping the relationship fresh and alive is the responsibility of the man. Many women are unsure about what they can do but it’s really simple. Here are some marriage tips and relationship advice for women to keep it fresh and alive.

Ladies, if your attracted to a man why don’t you ask him out to dinner? If your a married woman ask your husband for sex! Why don’t you buy your mate something just because you love him? What I’m trying to say ladies if its a two way street. Why does the man have to make the first move?

Date often. Women shouldn’t mind asking a man out for lunch/dinner. Call his cell phone while he’s in the house and ask him for a date while you are in the house with him, i.e. in another room or downstairs out of sight. This works wonders and gets the job done. You really shouldn’t have to ask him for sex-it should be an automatic. Just wear something sexy and set the mood. He’ll know what’s up.  Now if you see something that you think your man would like or you would like to see him have, just get it.  That’s spontaneous gift giving that show real love and appreciation.

Ladies, here’s something men really find sexy.  Buy your man a red rose just because and make it your business to set a day aside at least twice a month to treat him out to dinner and a movie and let him know you appreciate him.  Ladies, just like we want them to show us they appreciate what we do for them, they need it also. And ladies, if you are afraid to ask for sex just get on it when your in bed I’m quite sure he won’t mind. They actual like it. Trust me.

Role playing on dates is another good one. Acting like you don’t know each other and like your meeting for the first time is fun too. Remember, even though you’re married to that person for years you really don’t truly know that person.  You only know what they want you to know even though you’re living under the same roof.  You will be amazed at what you might learn from your mate.

Most men cheat because they are not getting what they want at home. So when they step outside the relationship the other woman is giving them the 20% that the 80% woman won’t. That’s why its best to switch things up and be that 20% woman when he needs it. Just to show him you can be a woman with two faces.

The whole goal is to always have fun from the beginning to the end, because when the kids are grown and out of the house you still have to keep each other wanting each other. That’s your man and your biggest goal should be to have fun keeping it fresh and alive at all times.

Most women wonder about this at some point. It’s true that men aren’t nearly as transparent when it comes to their feelings as women are. Women typically see no problem with wearing our hearts on our sleeves and telling the man they adore just how much he means to her. If you’re with a man who keeps his feelings to himself and you’re unsure whether or not he’s fallen in love with you, here’s some great relationship advice for women. There are simple signs in a man’s behavior that will give you insight into what’s going on in his heart. If you spot any of these, rest assured he’s likely to be just as wild about you as you are about him.

1) He spends as much time with you as possible. When a man is in love with a woman, everything else in his life pales in comparison to that. He’ll have a new focus and that focus is her. If the man you adore is always trying to squeeze in as much time with you as he can, he’s already hooked. If your guy has excuse after excuse for why he can’t spend time with you, he’s not as into you as you are into him. Men in love don’t try to avoid being with the women they adore. It’s that simple.

2) You know the other important people in his life. Although most women are comfortable introducing every man they date to their friends and family, most men aren’t. A man is much more likely to save that privilege for a woman he’s really serious about. If you’ve met his family and you’re friends with his friends, take heart. It means more than you might imagine. He feels close enough with you to share the important folks in his world with you. That’s a very promising sign of not only his feelings, but where the relationship is headed.

3) He’s more interested in you than himself. Even though this is one of the most telling, it’s also the most subtle. When a man is still in the falling in love phase of a relationship, he’ll generally go on and on about himself. He’s doing this, subconsciously, to impress the woman he’s dating. He wants to ensure she knows everything positive and alluring there is to know about him. However, once a man starts to fall in love his focus changes. He’ll be much more focused on the woman he loves. If your guy is asking more and more questions about you and your life, he’s feeling a strong emotional connection to you. Pay extra special attention to the conversations the two of you have. If you’re his favorite topic, he’s in love.

4) How often you hear from him. One of the ways to know when a man is in love with you has to do with how often you hear from him. If a man has fallen deeply in love with the woman in his life he constantly wants to be in touch. He’ll call whenever he has a free moment and will do almost anything just to spend a few moments with her. Many women take on the belief that they rarely get phone calls from their man because he’s too busy. The fact of the matter is men do call when they are in love. If he’s not calling and if he’s coming up with multiple excuses for why he can’t spend time with you, he’s likely not nearly as interested in you as you are in him.

5) He’s always looking for ways to make your life easier in every way possible. Does your boyfriend want to make your life easier in every way possible? Does he go out of his way to do small things that he knows you enjoy? If he does, that’s a clear sign that he loves you.  Although we’re all taught to be independent, it’s enjoyable and touching when the man in our lives takes care of things for us. Anything from making you coffee in the morning to helping fix a leaky faucet are all things that a man in love will be happy to do for the object of his affection. If your boyfriend doesn’t seem terribly concerned with making your life easier, that’s not a sign that he cares deeply for you.

Believe it or not, it doesn’t take a lot to improve your marriage or your relationship. In fact,  it’s the little things that can make a big difference. So many men get too comfortable in a relationship and are forget the fact that little gestures still count. It’s easy to get so wrapped up with  life that you lose focus and feel that little things are too insignificant in the grand scheme of things.   Remember, nothing in this life is free, so my relationship advice for men is to take care of your partner, show that you love her, take time to understand her, appreciate her and encourage her, don’t take her for granted, and follow these 8 little tips that will make a big difference in your relationship.

Women need to feel loved.  Its rare for a woman not to want and need those small gestures that show you love her. But more importantly they need to be respected and not taken for granted. Here are 8 tips that every man should master to show respect for their partner.

1)  Listen to her, respect her point of view. Take time to hear what she’s saying and give her your undivided attention.

2) Don’t bulldoze her into your way of thinking. She as a point of view that may be helpful to you. Don’t discount it. She’s there to help you.

3) Don’t assume you’re above doing all those boring household tasks. Do you think your wife really enjoys them?? Learn to sacrifice and pull you weight around the house. Don’t assume that everything is her responsibility. Be supportive.

4)  Offer to help, don’t wait to be asked. Be sensitive to your wife and step in to help when needed without having to be asked. You know when she needs help.

5) Encourage your wife and support her in anything she wants to do. Learn to operate as a team and support each other. But as the man you be the first to show your support and encouragement and it will come back to you.

6) Put your partner and your relationship first. Get your priorities straight.

7) Don’t just think of your own needs when lovemaking.  Aim to satisfy your wife.

Don’t cheat on your spouse. Be faithful. This is the ultimate sign of respect.

Those 8 little things form the basis of sound relationship advice for men that can  really make a big difference. Try it and see for yourself.

Intimidation by definition is the fear or threat of the negative use of power or control against you. The insecurity of many  lead them into the condition where they have these fears and are threatened by their mate or partner.  Here are a few marriage tips to help you avoid being intimidated by your partner.

Remember, whatever the case may be whether it’s higher income,  more education, better skills, better family background and status, physical size and strength, the list goes on there’s not reason to be intimidated.  But the saying  says “perfect love cast out fear”. If you have proper love for your mate or partner and you are SECURE in your shared love, i.e. you know he/she loves you and would do nothing to harm you, there will be no reason for  intimidation.  Instead there should be celebration when the partner excels and succeeds.

My advice is always to ensure that the roles of both partners in a relationship, especially marriage relationship,  are not tied to an income level or anything else that is subject to change. Rather it should be predetermined prior to the marriage, and best to be based on the unchangeable.  I recommend the biblical roles. The Man is the provider and the Woman is the nurturer. The term “Provider” does not only refer to money, husbands provide other things essential to a marriage such as leadership, protection,spiritual covering, etc… Likewise the term “nurturer” does not mean door mat, maid, servant or any  other demeaning title. A man or woman who knows there place in the relationship and is secure in his relationship will not be intimidated by their partners success. For more information visit our website at www.prelationship.com.

When it come to business and financial goals, they are usually clearly defined and we take concrete measures to achieve them, however most have never clearly defined our goals when it comes to the qualities we look for in a lifelong partner. In the vast amount of relationship tips and advice that is currently circulating, these 5 separate steps summarize the steps required to make our relationship dreams and goals a reality, and that is just as important, if not more so, then our business and financial life goals.

Techniques for the design and implementation of the objectives of the relationship is similar to the traditional business and financial objectives. Experts in the science of success know the brain is an organism that is goal-seeking in nature. Whatever the message sent to the subconscious mind, the mind can work tirelessly to achieve.

Step 1: Define
Get clarity on your relationship goals by writing them out in detail, as specifically as possible with a desired, realistic time-line.  Remember, vague goals will produce vague results. Instead of simply stating: I would like spend my life with the right man, become clear on the character traits that you absolutely have to have in a husband and your relationship goal and write it down in as much detail as possible. A clearly defined goal could be: I will be married to a man of high integrity, who is emotionally mature, respects and loves me, and who is professionally accomplished, by December 2012.

Step 2: Believe
You must believe wholeheartedly that your goals  can be achieved.  Once your goals are written down,  read them two to three times every day. This daily discipline will activate the power of your desire.

Step 3: Visualize
Visualization is another powerful way to reinforce your goal upon your subconscious mind. You may want to create a vision book and illustrate your written goal with pictures and images that depict your goal as already achieved. You can also play your vision like a movie in your head by simply closing your eyes, relaxing and creating the mental images of your desired future.

Step 4: Focus
You must learn to focus on your goals daily. If  your goal is to attract a handsome, athletic and accomplished man, you are not likely to meet him sitting at your apartment or hanging out at your girlfriends house.  In order to attract the right person, focus on being the best you can be, then determine where the type of person you are hoping to meet would most likely spend their free time.  Athletes work out at the gym, rather than hitting the local bars after work.

Step 5: Take Action
The final step is to take action.  Nothing happens until you take action. If you are haven’t gotten over your last relationship, get some counseling or relationship coaching. If you haven’t had a date in the last 9 months, join some social group. Most importantly, quit waiting and procrastinating. Do something and do it now. Take action and 2010 will likely be your best year ever.

While browsing through some blogs I ran across this entry from a woman who posted this in answer to the question “What does a woman look for in a man?” I thought I’d share it with the women and men alike and hopefully provide some relationship tips that would be useful.  Enjoy.

I can’t speak for all women however, I will say NOTHING replaces the comfort of a man. The White Horse/Knight In Shining Armor theory is to some, lie and wait on a man to complete us, to be our prince, after we have kissed so many frogs.  However fairy tale it is yet we believe it and it leaves us with optimism. With that being said, this is why women have unrealistic expectations of men. Our theory is not unobtainable-it’s just that we hold onto it and so many times loose out by waiting.

Remember, it ’s a wonderful world. but it’s not a perfect world. A perfect world would have no violence, hate, no monstrosities or evil human beings.  It would be filled with sunshine, trees, variety of flowers, to wake up everyday with a smile on my face, animals of all kinds-not cannibalism of course, all things tangible, lakes, waterfalls, birds, anything I imagine would be mine.

A man could keep me happy by wanting and appreciating these things with me. Both of our desires would be fulfilled. I would expect him to know that this is a gift from GOD and it’s would show by the works of our hands, mouth, actions, representation,  motives, thoughts, and image. I believe that I can and will have all these things.