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How long do you think a person should wait to start dating after ending a longterm (over 2 yrs) relationship? Should they wait 3 months? 6 months? Should they even wait at all? Would it depend on if they are looking for something long term or a one nightstand? How soon is too soon? Maybe it depends on why the prior relationship ended? Looking for answers to these tough questions? Follow this link to www.prelationship.com to get expert dating advice from around the web.

Remember, there are no set rules on the time when a person should move on in my opinion. I think it depends on the person. Everyone is different.  People should not judge others and let folks be themselves when they decide. I believe in encouragement or positive feedback on taking time to heal but I think ultimately individuals should do what they want in order to be happy or to simply learn a valuable lesson for their future. My recommendation is to give “time” time. Give it time & heal. Some people can move on faster than others.

If you were in love with the person at the time of the break up - then you definitely need to wait until you can safely say you are free in your heart. Jumping into something new will only hurt the next person and that’s just not right. Then again, it also depends on how and why the prior relationship ended.  It could have been a long time coming and if you’re ready who’s to say what’s a good time for you. Again, just make sure you are healed.

How do you stop loving someone who you are DEEPLY in love with, but for various reasons the relationship doesn’t work. You love them but you can’t be with them? How do you turn off your emotions? Especially when you have to see this person everyday, Here’s some breakup advice that will help you get over it and move on.

It’s obvious that you must limit your interaction with this person. NO more phone calls. With time, any emotional attachment and feelings will subside after a while. Detach yourself from the delusion first. You need to come to realization that you two can’t be together. Not sure why you got yourself in this situation to begin with, BUT you’re there, so how you do release yourself from a painful reality?

First remove all things that remind you of this person; any pictures, phone messages, text messages etc.. If  you see this person daily at work for instance, walk the other way. Keep it professional no matter how hard it is. Concentrate and utilize mind over matter.

Remember, it’s never easy to turn your emotions off. You can’t help it. Start filling that void with something else to occupy your time. Don’t read a book, its useless. You’re not gonna be able to concentrate.  Go out and be amongst your friends.

Because you are “Deeply” in love, sex probably played a factor. Needless to say you must show restraint. Don’t continue to have sex anymore. You have to be strong.  Understand you are only setting yourself up to get hurt. You have to take the first step if you don’t want to feel this yearning and desire anymore. Only you have control over your feelings and emotions. Don’t look to the person you are dealing with to help you with this.

But if you are seeing a married man-STOP NOW! Do yourself a favor. He is not gonna leave his wife. Don’t get caught up. You know better. If you are married, same advice. I hope your spouse doesn’t find out. But seriously, you must find a way to detach yourself.

Personally, you will be fine. Forgive yourself and love yourself enough not to get caught up in a situation like this again. The healing process is not gonna be easy.  Have patience. Don’t be too hard on yourself but get out now. Save your sanity and your dignity. Find someone you can be with without stipulations.

It is usually assumed that the job of keeping the relationship fresh and alive is the responsibility of the man. Many women are unsure about what they can do but it’s really simple. Here are some marriage tips and relationship advice for women to keep it fresh and alive.

Ladies, if your attracted to a man why don’t you ask him out to dinner? If your a married woman ask your husband for sex! Why don’t you buy your mate something just because you love him? What I’m trying to say ladies if its a two way street. Why does the man have to make the first move?

Date often. Women shouldn’t mind asking a man out for lunch/dinner. Call his cell phone while he’s in the house and ask him for a date while you are in the house with him, i.e. in another room or downstairs out of sight. This works wonders and gets the job done. You really shouldn’t have to ask him for sex-it should be an automatic. Just wear something sexy and set the mood. He’ll know what’s up.  Now if you see something that you think your man would like or you would like to see him have, just get it.  That’s spontaneous gift giving that show real love and appreciation.

Ladies, here’s something men really find sexy.  Buy your man a red rose just because and make it your business to set a day aside at least twice a month to treat him out to dinner and a movie and let him know you appreciate him.  Ladies, just like we want them to show us they appreciate what we do for them, they need it also. And ladies, if you are afraid to ask for sex just get on it when your in bed I’m quite sure he won’t mind. They actual like it. Trust me.

Role playing on dates is another good one. Acting like you don’t know each other and like your meeting for the first time is fun too. Remember, even though you’re married to that person for years you really don’t truly know that person.  You only know what they want you to know even though you’re living under the same roof.  You will be amazed at what you might learn from your mate.

Most men cheat because they are not getting what they want at home. So when they step outside the relationship the other woman is giving them the 20% that the 80% woman won’t. That’s why its best to switch things up and be that 20% woman when he needs it. Just to show him you can be a woman with two faces.

The whole goal is to always have fun from the beginning to the end, because when the kids are grown and out of the house you still have to keep each other wanting each other. That’s your man and your biggest goal should be to have fun keeping it fresh and alive at all times.

Most women wonder about this at some point. It’s true that men aren’t nearly as transparent when it comes to their feelings as women are. Women typically see no problem with wearing our hearts on our sleeves and telling the man they adore just how much he means to her. If you’re with a man who keeps his feelings to himself and you’re unsure whether or not he’s fallen in love with you, here’s some great relationship advice for women. There are simple signs in a man’s behavior that will give you insight into what’s going on in his heart. If you spot any of these, rest assured he’s likely to be just as wild about you as you are about him.

1) He spends as much time with you as possible. When a man is in love with a woman, everything else in his life pales in comparison to that. He’ll have a new focus and that focus is her. If the man you adore is always trying to squeeze in as much time with you as he can, he’s already hooked. If your guy has excuse after excuse for why he can’t spend time with you, he’s not as into you as you are into him. Men in love don’t try to avoid being with the women they adore. It’s that simple.

2) You know the other important people in his life. Although most women are comfortable introducing every man they date to their friends and family, most men aren’t. A man is much more likely to save that privilege for a woman he’s really serious about. If you’ve met his family and you’re friends with his friends, take heart. It means more than you might imagine. He feels close enough with you to share the important folks in his world with you. That’s a very promising sign of not only his feelings, but where the relationship is headed.

3) He’s more interested in you than himself. Even though this is one of the most telling, it’s also the most subtle. When a man is still in the falling in love phase of a relationship, he’ll generally go on and on about himself. He’s doing this, subconsciously, to impress the woman he’s dating. He wants to ensure she knows everything positive and alluring there is to know about him. However, once a man starts to fall in love his focus changes. He’ll be much more focused on the woman he loves. If your guy is asking more and more questions about you and your life, he’s feeling a strong emotional connection to you. Pay extra special attention to the conversations the two of you have. If you’re his favorite topic, he’s in love.

4) How often you hear from him. One of the ways to know when a man is in love with you has to do with how often you hear from him. If a man has fallen deeply in love with the woman in his life he constantly wants to be in touch. He’ll call whenever he has a free moment and will do almost anything just to spend a few moments with her. Many women take on the belief that they rarely get phone calls from their man because he’s too busy. The fact of the matter is men do call when they are in love. If he’s not calling and if he’s coming up with multiple excuses for why he can’t spend time with you, he’s likely not nearly as interested in you as you are in him.

5) He’s always looking for ways to make your life easier in every way possible. Does your boyfriend want to make your life easier in every way possible? Does he go out of his way to do small things that he knows you enjoy? If he does, that’s a clear sign that he loves you.  Although we’re all taught to be independent, it’s enjoyable and touching when the man in our lives takes care of things for us. Anything from making you coffee in the morning to helping fix a leaky faucet are all things that a man in love will be happy to do for the object of his affection. If your boyfriend doesn’t seem terribly concerned with making your life easier, that’s not a sign that he cares deeply for you.

When it come to business and financial goals, they are usually clearly defined and we take concrete measures to achieve them, however most have never clearly defined our goals when it comes to the qualities we look for in a lifelong partner. In the vast amount of relationship tips and advice that is currently circulating, these 5 separate steps summarize the steps required to make our relationship dreams and goals a reality, and that is just as important, if not more so, then our business and financial life goals.

Techniques for the design and implementation of the objectives of the relationship is similar to the traditional business and financial objectives. Experts in the science of success know the brain is an organism that is goal-seeking in nature. Whatever the message sent to the subconscious mind, the mind can work tirelessly to achieve.

Step 1: Define
Get clarity on your relationship goals by writing them out in detail, as specifically as possible with a desired, realistic time-line.  Remember, vague goals will produce vague results. Instead of simply stating: I would like spend my life with the right man, become clear on the character traits that you absolutely have to have in a husband and your relationship goal and write it down in as much detail as possible. A clearly defined goal could be: I will be married to a man of high integrity, who is emotionally mature, respects and loves me, and who is professionally accomplished, by December 2012.

Step 2: Believe
You must believe wholeheartedly that your goals  can be achieved.  Once your goals are written down,  read them two to three times every day. This daily discipline will activate the power of your desire.

Step 3: Visualize
Visualization is another powerful way to reinforce your goal upon your subconscious mind. You may want to create a vision book and illustrate your written goal with pictures and images that depict your goal as already achieved. You can also play your vision like a movie in your head by simply closing your eyes, relaxing and creating the mental images of your desired future.

Step 4: Focus
You must learn to focus on your goals daily. If  your goal is to attract a handsome, athletic and accomplished man, you are not likely to meet him sitting at your apartment or hanging out at your girlfriends house.  In order to attract the right person, focus on being the best you can be, then determine where the type of person you are hoping to meet would most likely spend their free time.  Athletes work out at the gym, rather than hitting the local bars after work.

Step 5: Take Action
The final step is to take action.  Nothing happens until you take action. If you are haven’t gotten over your last relationship, get some counseling or relationship coaching. If you haven’t had a date in the last 9 months, join some social group. Most importantly, quit waiting and procrastinating. Do something and do it now. Take action and 2010 will likely be your best year ever.

While browsing through some blogs I ran across this entry from a woman who posted this in answer to the question “What does a woman look for in a man?” I thought I’d share it with the women and men alike and hopefully provide some relationship tips that would be useful.  Enjoy.

I can’t speak for all women however, I will say NOTHING replaces the comfort of a man. The White Horse/Knight In Shining Armor theory is to some, lie and wait on a man to complete us, to be our prince, after we have kissed so many frogs.  However fairy tale it is yet we believe it and it leaves us with optimism. With that being said, this is why women have unrealistic expectations of men. Our theory is not unobtainable-it’s just that we hold onto it and so many times loose out by waiting.

Remember, it ’s a wonderful world. but it’s not a perfect world. A perfect world would have no violence, hate, no monstrosities or evil human beings.  It would be filled with sunshine, trees, variety of flowers, to wake up everyday with a smile on my face, animals of all kinds-not cannibalism of course, all things tangible, lakes, waterfalls, birds, anything I imagine would be mine.

A man could keep me happy by wanting and appreciating these things with me. Both of our desires would be fulfilled. I would expect him to know that this is a gift from GOD and it’s would show by the works of our hands, mouth, actions, representation,  motives, thoughts, and image. I believe that I can and will have all these things.

Building trust in a relationship is something that never stops, and you should prepare to do it for the length of your relationship.  Trust is built over time and must be maintained.  While you might already have some idea of what it is and what it is not, this article will give a few relationship tips that should be helpful while you build it.

For example, its been said that variety is the spice of life and a little goes a long way. However,  the truth is that when it comes to building trust, focusing on the contrary,  is more likely to improve the level of trust in your relationship.

So let’s look at seven top factors that may increase the special bond between two people:

Relationship Trust Building Tips

- Be Reliable. Your reliability  from day to day is essential. Spicing things up is good, and adds something to the partnership, but being reliable and predictable is the key when it comes to building trust.

- Make sure your words and actions line up. If you talk to a partner, make sure that what you say is in line with your body language and your voice.  Do not tell the good things and you’re body language is gloomy while you express it. The words must be to meet the body’s expression.

- Have faith. Have faith in the competence of your partner. You may love them, but have a sarcastic air of arrogance when it comes to their ability to achieve and do things. This quickly deteriorates the relationship and anger is a common result.

- Be open. Be careful about keeping secrets from each other. For example, when a telephone rings you need to suddenly leave the room, so the partner can not hear what you are saying. Not good. Over time, this leads to dis-trust in each other.

- Be clear. Always let your partner know in clear terms what your needs are. Avoid making them figure out what you need. This is annoying, irritating and self-centered behavior and can cause your relationship to quickly grow old.

- Speak up. Be strong.  Do not be afraid to say no to your partner, if you feel what is being done or said does not agree with you. Being a push over or a “yes person” is not a good thing.

- Promote growth. Trust in a relationship implies the pursuit of growth. Do not be alarmed by a sudden crisis or get overcome by the day to day issues that may arise. Even the best relationships have problems from time to time. They are the catalysts of growth and are essential for  strengthening the relationship.

Definition: “Online dating allows individuals, couples and groups to meet online to develop a social, romantic or sexual relationship. Internet dating services provide unmoderated match making through the use of the Internet and personal computers.” If this is what you are looking to achieve, here are 10 killer online dating tips to help in your quest for online love.

1. Create an introduction that is intended to attract the opposite sex. Don”t overdo it and make sure you include all the necessary information about yourself, and keep away from sharing too much personal information. This is for your protection.

2. Do not use too many adjectives in the profile. Keep descriptions simple and basic.

3. List your interests and specific details. If you say that for a hobby, you enjoy hiking, for example, include a separate list of places where you”ve hiked or a hiking club you”ve joined.

4. Create a unique identity on the Internet. The system is full of online dating profiles that are almost exactly the same. If yours is not unique, you”ll be lost in the crowd. Always stress your individual uniqueness to create an effective online dating presence.

5. The truth is that everyone is different. So be creative to get enough attention. But try to be as original and as honest as you can.

6. Try not to brag or boast too much. You won”t impress anyone with that kind of attitude. Confidence is fine, but the excessive bragging is definitely a turn-OFF. If you”re looking good, it will appear in the photo, you do not need to use these words in your profile. If the claim is intelligence, then make sure that you use the correct grammar, good vocabulary,  and by all means proper spelling.

7. Nobody responds to negativity. It’s not a good idea for depressed, lonely, frustrated, or just an unfortunate individuals to plunge right into an online dating relationship because of the negative emotions are likely to surface. People will shy away from melodrama as they read the profile. Online dating should be  fun, not depressing.

8. Stay away from the dominant people, who DON”T want to meet. It’s enough that your profile says don”t want to meet someone who is a liar who is overweight, or who are chronically unemployed. Not more than necessary to stress that this case is to introduce yourself to others.

9. Do not forget to check the spelling. You can do this in writing to the profile in a Word document, spell check, and then cutting and pasting the text into the profile of the area dating site.

10. Tell me the truth, as much as possible. However, reveal only information that won”t hurt you in any way. Tell people who you really are, the type of work you do, your family history, etc. But be mindful to avoid mentioning for your safety any information on how you make money or how many companies you have, and any other such information that could be used to harm or defraud you.

Online dating is rapidly growing and is the networking tool of choice for many young people and old people too. Online  opens up numerous possibilities for a relationship, especially when you are starting over from a recent breakup or even divorce.  People find it extremely helpful when moving to a new city or location where you don’t know many people.  To help make your  online dating experience successful here are some online dating tips you should be aware of before diving in to the online dating sites.

1.  Planning is important

As the saying says “Failure to plan is planning to fail”. Know what you are looking for in a relationship before searching online dating sites.  Are you looking casual entertainment to spend the weekend with someone or are you looking for love?  It may be you are looking for a person to develop a long-term relationship. Decide what you want and plan accordingly to get the best out of online dating. Meeting someone new can be challenging and sometimes risky so express your desires before face-to-face meetings. This will prevent you from getting hurt or hurting someone else.

2. Consult your network of friends.

As the saying goes “In the council of many there is safety”.  Ask your friends, colleagues and associates about websites they have used for online dating. Your friends may have spent time in chat rooms or browsing through profiles and been successful in finding relationships. Be smart and don’t just  choose a service at random. Take their advice about which sites to use. Don’t try to reinvent the wheel.

3. Be Patient

Patience is a virtue and a requirement for anything worth having. There are no time limits in online dating. Take your time and make the best use of your e-mail or chat rooms screen potential dating partners. Its important to know who you are dealing with to make sure you are compatible before meeting each other.Rushing through the screening process can lead to disaster.

4. Be honest

Honesty is always the best policy. There are many people in online dating sites that are sincere and looking for healthy relationships. For best results you should be sincere and honest too.  However, there are also individuals who may not be truthful and may look to deceive you with the information provided in the chat room or personal profile.  So be smart and do your homework. Don’t hesitate to crosscheck with public records or make a few verification phone calls. Be decent in your communications with the other person to make him/her at ease to be open and honest with you.

5. Be safe:

Common sense makes the best sense. Don’t get carried away lose your common sense.  Maintain your anonymity in the initial stages of online dating. Never reveal your telephone number or home/workplace address unless you have met and critically evaluated the person. Trust your intuition and stop communicating if you feel the person is pushing you too fast or if you feel suspicious of their intent.  Quick tip: Do not entangle with married people.  The effect on the person’s family and on you may be more than you expected.  Following these online dating tips  will make your online dating experience enjoyable and nurture healthy relationships.

Job or office romances can really work but it actually requires a lot of good common sense. Spending a lot of time around the same people every day naturally allows you the opportunity to get to know them better and become more comfortable around them. This can often lead to casual talking, joking, laughing—maybe even flirting.

But when you date someone in your office, it is vitally important that you leave your relationship drama at home where it belongs. Not in the office amongst you co-workers. Otherwise you may end up in the HR department for a talk about the office’s dating policy or even worse in your boss’s office for a reprimand. Keeping work professional and keeping what you do personally from interfering is something we all must do. But there’s no denying that the interference can happen. So here are some office dating tips for you to think about before making your move, and to remember once (or if!) you do.

Think Before You Step
Dating a coworker can be like “walking through a minefield with big clown shoes.” Don’t be so quick to jump freely and willingly into a relationship without considering all the consequences. Especially if the other person is a superior or someone with whom we work closely or regularly. Sometimes the relationship may not work out and them you’ve got a bitter and sometimes revengeful person to deal with. So you have to decide: Is it worth the risk to you? People can lose jobs and get sued because of relationships gone bad.

Control Your Excitement
Admittedly, an office fling can definitely spice up your life and add lots of excitement. Don’t go overboard and forget where you are and what you are there to do. Many people get caught up in the excitement and forget to focus on their work. Instead they expend all their energy wooing the other person or talking to other co-workers about you new found love. Determine to keep it low key while in the office and involve as few people as you can to prevent the work distraction.
Likewise, if the relationship fails, try not to dwell on what went wrong. Mulling over a relationship gone bad is what you do at home while eating ice cream and watching that tearjerker for the fifteenth time, not an activity to do at your desk.

Finally, everyone can benefit from heeding this advice if they are serious about pursuing a relationship at work. With the right partner, the right mindset, the right perspective, and the right attitude, you can make it work. You never know whether your true love and future soulmate is in the next office cubicle or just down the hall.