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Did you know that your love relationships and your personality are directly connected? You will ultimately attract people who are just like you. This fact makes the issue of relationship compatibility a vital one when looking for love.

Make A List..

Relationships and your personality must match in order to have a wholesome union. Compatibility is often hard to achieve but, it is very essential and worth considering. When looking for love, you often have this list of wants in your head that will describe the kind of girl or guy you want. We always suggest that singles have a real list written down with specifics about the kind of person they want.  This exercise programs the mind and causes you to attract the person with the exact qualities you have listed.  It also provides a checklist as you search for the right person. The need to have a list comes from the realization that compatibility is essential. When you are playing your own matchmaker, you probably know best what you like and do not like. Therefore, there are certain pointers that will guide you to have a realistic list for a real person who will have all the attributes you are looking for. Remember, MAKE A LIST!

Personalities Don’t Change..

Keep in mind that relationships and your personality are sisters. Therefore you must also strive to have certain qualities for someone to take a keen interest in you. When it comes to our personality, we can only enhance what we already have. It comes naturally.  So  realize that you can never change somebody and because of this, you need to take compatibility seriously. You might have heard it being said that people change when they enter into long term relationships. This may be true of their behavior and attitudes about things but their innate personality remains the same.  When you really take the time to learn someone’s personality, you should know what their strengths are as well as weaknesses. Many singles often date in a mask. They may not even realize that they are wearing a mask. You want to be your best so that you can make the right impression. This is perfectly normal but, there reaches a point where you open up for your real qualities to be seen. Relationships and your personality must match; even though not a perfect match.

Know thyself..
Before you start the process of dating, you need to examine what your personality really is. For example, you should consider whether you are a wild or conservative person and the list goes on. Then, you need to look at all those traits that are going to compliment you. When you know exactly what you want, you can begin the process of dating. You will definitely not find perfect singles; you are not perfect either. If you are into astrology, you can look at the stars and see people who are best suited for you. Whichever way you choose, know that your relationships and your personality can never be divorced; they go together. In other words, you can look into your personality to provide answers for your relationship. When you find a suitable mate, work on your imperfections as you strive for excellence.

Remember MAC!

How often we find ourselves in a work environment where we are surrounded by people we would not normally choose to be around. But for the sake of the job we put up with them and set ourselves to deal with it. The tips I am about to share with you are the relationship tips that helped me no only get through those situations but to succeed and prosper in spite of them.  The key to my success was remembering MAC.

You might ask who is MAC and what’s his significance in my work place? Well the answer is that MAC is not a person, it is an acronym for three vital ingredients or virtues that will guarantee your success in the workplace.  MAC stands for Motivation, Attitude, and Courtesy. When properly employed, these virtues will set you apart from all your peers and help you to survive the day to day challenges you face dealing with your co-workers and bosses. In addition, they will open the doors and put you in line for promotions and additional leadership roles.  The sky is the limit when you put these three ingredients to work.

Check back with us soon as we discuss each one of these virtues individually and in detail and provide you with the necessary steps to put these virtues to use to ensure your success in the workplace.  I have used these to my advantage for years and you can too.  Just make up your mind that every day you’ll “remember MAC”.

It is possible to mend a broken relationship or even save a marriage even when it seems hopeless! It happens every day. But you need to be sure you not past the no return mark. So its important to know where you are in the relationship and to determine what you can do to mend your relationship if it is possible. Here is some relationship help on how to mend that broken relationship or maybe even how to save a marriage.

Many times it does seem that everything is hopeless and you will never get back together with your ex. But if you caught the warning signs in time  hopefully you can fix the relationship before it gets much worse.

Right now you might be stressed out… emotionally drained… worried about facing life without your ex.  These are all are common fears and pressures faced by many others just like you.  But guess what? Many of them get back together again! Yes, that’s right. They actually mended their broken relationship and in many cases became that much stronger for it.

Now it never easy to repair any relationship. There is no magic poem, pill, or potion. It takes work and you are going to have to work at it. So that definitely means you will have to resist calling and pleading with your ex.  It hasn’t worked yet has it? Believe me it won’t.

So here is the plan.  You are going to create space for a while.  A short while. And no matter what your ex is doing you have to be busy too. Got it? You are busy doing something.

And then you need an effective blueprint to get back together with your ex. You need to be prepared to handle the next contact so your ex realizes that you are confident, independent,  and attractive. Most importantly you need to avoid exhibiting all needy behaviors.  Keep the attitude of “I don’t need him/her”. I can be happy being by myself.  Let the magnetism begin and before you know it your ex will be attracted to you once again.

Once you fixed your relationship… I want you to make yourself this promise… never let things get that bad again! Learn to recognize the early signs of trouble and head them off… Take the time to really reconnect with your partner. Keep the excitement going in the relationship. Be genuine, honest and understanding. And above all, recognize that men and women are truly different.

In any relationship it’s not always what you say but sometimes its how you say it. Especially when it comes to saying “I love you”. But saying “I love you” doesn’t necessarily mean an extravagant night on the town, two dozen long stem roses or serious bling.  It really is the thought that counts! You can learn to say ‘I love you’ every day in these sweet and simple ways!  Here are some practical everyday relationship tips on how  to tell your partner “I love you” and show them that you are thinking of them!

1) Say It In Writing With Love Notes

It takes just 30 seconds to jot down those sweet nothings on a yellow Post-it. Stick it on the bathroom mirror or the refrigerator door before you leave the house for the day, or put in in his lunch box where he will find it later… it will put a smile on your sweetheart’s face and start their morning off right.

2) Find The Right Grooves.

Jump online and download a collection of your honey’s favorite tunes. Assemble them onto a CD and think of your very own clever album title. Find the old school jams that they can identify with and make sure the message is clear. They will love it.

3) Sweet Tooth Attack

Surprise your significant other with their favorite guilty pleasure. It’s the simple things in life that ramp up our happiness factor, so whether it’s a peppermint patty, a vanilla latte or the occasional Krispy Kreme doughnut, paying attention to your partner’s likes really means a lot to them.

4) Breakfast in Bed

Wake up Saturday morning and whip up a batch of blueberry pancakes or even some freshly squeezed orange juice, then deliver the goodies with a smile to your resting mate (but please, let them sleep in a bit first!).

5) Preemptive Shopping

Does your guy or gal have a particular passion for something? Browse through the store on occasion and pay attention to what they are buying when you shop together. Then, pick up a one or two items when they’re not around and surprise them. Let them know that you know them.

6) The Human Touch

A fabulous foot massage or back rub can ease away the tensions of the day and be a great way to reconnect. Light a few candles, put on some relaxing music and enjoy a quiet evening decompressing together.

7) A Day Off

Create a homemade coupon that entitles your loved one to an afternoon off from carpooling, babysitting, house cleaning or the usual chores. They will appreciate it more than you know.

Going through a break up can be hard on a person, and can take it’s toll on a person’s emotions and their self-esteem.  Many people  who were in relationships claim that they never noticed that tell tale signs of an oncoming breakup. Usually the signs are right in front of them, and without recognizing what made a previous relationship fail, they are destined to repeat the process.  Others fail to see the common issues that people use as reasons to break up.  These four common signs should alert you that you are about to get dumped, and may allow you to make the proper changes in your relationship to prevent another break up.

1) Lost Passion

A prime reason for ending a relationship is that the passion within it has been lost. Relationships typically begin with love, romance and excitement fueled by passion. As a result, you find yourself making love notes, unexpected visits and all of those little things that someone does to see to it that their partner is “the happiest person in the world”. But over time this passion begins to fade, and we forget to express those feelings that we had before and we no longer do those little things to remind a loved one that they are someone who is deeply cared for. If this condition continues beware, you are on the verge of a break up. So remember, don’t let the passion die.

2) Too Much Negativity

The main reason that we are with an individual is that they make us happy, and provide support when there is a problem.  Constant complaining about things that upset us such as a bad day at work or perhaps problems financially, can result in an uninterested partner. You may find your partner distancing them self from you and you might not realize why. The reason is that you are too negative. Instead of making them happy and providing support you are making them miserable and bringing them down.  Understanding that we all have problems is essential, and exploiting them is not a viable way to handle it, usually there is enough trouble and negativity to be found in our spare time. Stay positive and always encouraging and you can avoid this pitfall.

3) Too Much of a Good Thing

Not having enough space between someone and their partner is bound to create a problem in one way or another. Allowing a partner enough space for themselves and enough time to be able to go spend time with friends is very important. By doing so it allows a very healthy balance in the relationship, and can allow partners to appreciate the time they have with a loved one. Don’t smother your partner. Give them some space to breathe. Don’t make them glad twice, i.e. glad to see you come and glad to see you go.

4) “Us” Time

In our lives, we tend to devote a great majority of our time to towards things like education and the workplace, so that we seem to be without the ability to plan anything. Attaining free time and quality time for a loved one is another important factor; it allows the time to just be alone and get to focus all attention to that one person. This will allow a more in-depth relationship with that person. Understanding that without quality time alone with that person, they will obviously feel neglected and will try to look to other people, or places, to find it. So turn of the cell phone, blackberry and all your other gadgets and spend that uninterrupted quality time with your partner before they begin to look other places to find it.

Whenever the topic of dating comes up, we usually think of a date between a young man and woman. It is always intimidating to ask a girl out, especially if it’s on a first date.  You may know a little bit about her but often times this is not enough.  There are ways to find out more about her likes, her interests and so on.  The most common way to find out is to ask her friends for some dating advice.

When it is time to talk to her, catch her when she is alone.  Make it as casual as possible, even if your heart is pounding. Remember that she might be just as nervous as you. Start with some light conversation that will lead to your objective. Plan on a simple date.  Light snacks and coffee will be easier to agree to than dinner and a movie.  Watch the body language of your intended date.  Spare yourself the agony of a rejection by watching early signs in her actions.

What do husband and wife, mother and daughter, girlfriend and boyfriend, child and pet have in common?  They are all in relationships.  A relationship involves at least two individuals.  It may be by choice, as in you choose your spouse; or pre-set, as in the relationship of the mother and child. All relationships presuppose some level of interdependence. They share common needs and goals.  By this very nature, one will have an influence on the other although the extent can vary from case to case.

Relationships come about because of different factors:

~ proximity – our closeness to our relatives is an example.  They surround us all the time thereby becoming a big influence on the way we act.
 
~ similarity – we became close to our best friend in high school because we come from the same background.
 
~ reciprocal liking – we became attracted to an officemate because we liked the same food, watched the same movies and dressed similarly
 
~ complimentarily - it appears like a contradiction but opposites will attract because one sees qualities in the other that he does not have but desires.

With Valentine’s Day on the way, men everywhere should be thinking of creative ways to improve their relationships with their wives or girlfriends. But romance and creativity do not come naturally for all men.  It can be difficult for some men to show a woman how much they care, whether it be on a day-to-day basis, or for a special holiday like Valentine’s Day or an anniversary.

Fortunately, we’ve found five simple secrets and dating tips for men that will make the task of making your partner happy a lot easier.  Whether in a marriage or a dating relationship, for most women, the five following things are what romance is truly about.

1. Knowing You’re Thinking of Them. Women care about being loved, valued, and cared for.  To them that’s what romance means, and that’s why they want it.  Simply knowing that you’re thinking about us when they’re not around is a great way to make a woman happy. Send her a bouquet of flowers in the middle of the workday or tuck a note into her purse before she leaves for work. If she knows that you were thinking of her enough to make the effort, chances are it will make her day.

2. Knowing Your Sincere Thoughts. Women know that men try hard to do and say the right things. There is a list of “rules” that most men try to follow; things like always telling your partner she looks pretty when she asks, and always complimenting a new hairstyle. But when a woman hears what you really think of her without her soliciting it, she’ll know that you really mean what you say. And it’ll give her a peek into your heart. Give your wife or girlfriend a sincere or thoughtful compliment when she least expects it, or put her in a position to hear what you think about her from your friends or relatives. When she knows you’re not doing to keep the peace or suck up, it’ll mean that much more.

3. Making a Sacrifice for her. For most women, simply knowing that the man in her life has given something up or done something he doesn’t want to do to make her happy is proof of his love. When they know that you sacrificed something –your time, something you like, etc.– to please them, they know that you truly care. So wash the dishes after dinner even if you hate it, or go to that dreadful show she’s been dying to see. Her reaction will more than compensate for your sacrifice.

4. Showing that You Know Her Best. Every man isn’t necessarily gifted with all the words he needs to express his appreciation for his wife or girlfriend. But that doesn’t mean you can’t do it. By simply showing that you know her –buying a gift that’s perfectly suited to her or tracking down a poem that perfectly summarizes her character or finding a song with lyrics that relate to her — you’ll assure that she sees what you see. And she’ll know that truly  no one else could ever take your place.

5. Spending Effort and Time. Contrary to popular belief, romance is not about expensive gifts. It’s not about the most gorgeous long-stem roses or the biggest diamond earrings. It’s about time and effort. For most women, a gift that took hours of research or tons of effort will mean a lot more than one that took piles of money. Have plenty of money to spend? Then do both. But don’t be surprised if she gushes more about the scrapbook you put together with mementos from your relationship (from when you started internet dating all the way up to the present) than she does about the diamond necklace you bought her on the way home from work.

Think about it!