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Let’s face it, no marriage is perfect.  While marriage often seems like a good idea, it can turn out to be a nightmare for both parties involved.  To have a successful marriage, there are several steps that should be taken before the marriage vows are spoken.  First it’s important to recognize the difference between passionate love and benign love.  Passionate love is the kind of love that makes successful marriages; this love is deep seeded and based on two people who have mutual respect and care for each other.  Benign love feels as its name implies, benign, there is love in this relationship but it’s more a love of convenience than choice.  Though we often associate teenagers with being full of passion, in truth they’re the most common targets of benign love.  This love is love for the sake of being in love, rather than love of another person.  People who are frequently in and out of relationships tend to experience forms of benign love. 

Marriage problems result from relationships where both parties don’t feel like the other person is another extension of themselves.  But it’s hard to admit that benign love isn’t real, because it can feel real.  It’s important to recognize the difference between a person who you want to grow old with and a person who is ‘good enough for now’.

Ever wonder why some people have such an easy time finding love and companionship? Ever ask yourself, “What do  they have that I don’t? Well the answer might be a magnetic personality that attracts love like a magnet.  If you are single and yearning for someone special to come into your life, to share your life, and to share all the laughter and joy of being together, there is something you can do to attract your true love like a magnet! These dating tips will start you on your way to doing just that.

1. Believe in Yourself - Believe you are able to attract true love.

In order to attract your true love, not just any type of lovers, to come into your life, you have to believe you are able to attract the right person into your life. True love comes to you not because of chance. Instead, it comes to you because of who you are. It comes ‘through’ you, it does not come to you. You attract the people in your life because of who you are. If you are someone who is always cheery, generous, kind, and hardworking, then it is very likely you will attract people who have one or more of your positive attributes. Whoever you attract into your lives is a reflection of who you are at that moment. Thus if you are someone who is always doubtful of your own ability and capability to meet the right person, then it is very likely you will attract the wrong person into your life!

2. Decide to Love - Love those in your life at this moment.

Being loving to others is perfect love, not just wanting love. Open up your heart and give your love to others as well while you are waiting for your someone special to enter your life. When you open up and give more love, more love will return and be given you too. This is the law of give and receive. When you go outside and socialize, do not go with the intention of only wanting to find love, or to find your Mr/Mrs Right. Instead, take an interest in all those that you encounter, be aware of their welfare and needs as well. If you start to take an interest in other people’s welfare and needs instead of only your own, more people will be attracted to you. So, detach yourself from the feeling that you want to find that someone special. The right person will definitely come to you one day and be attracted to you because of who you are. He or she might must be around in a corner thinking : “Hey, I want to get to know this person who has so much magnetism and optimism. How can I approach him/her?”

3. Expect less and give more.

As you give more and more love to others, be careful not to become too much focused on your own wants and needs. In wanting or expecting to experience the love we want, we suffer. We crave, and we cling to what we do not have and we even refuse to let go what we have clung to. Your giving should not come with any conditions. Instead, the love you give should want less and less. As your love wants less and less, ironically you will find more love coming your way, even without you asking for it.

Give true love, so that it opens up and embrace the world. Very soon, you will find that someone special entering your life. It is not by chance that this person has entered your life, but you have cultivated the ’seeds’ to bring him/her to you, not just any type of person, but the right and true one for you. And after he/she has entered your life, continue to cultivate even more ’seeds’ of love for everyone around you, and you will find that you can easily create the ‘magical’ relationship that you desire effortlessly.

The toughest thing to figure out when you get dumped in a relationship is whether your ex really wants to break up or whether they’ll soon come to their senses and realize they made a mistake.

The answer to both questions would normally be a resounding yes and no. Yes they want to and no, they won’t usually come to their senses. If this is the line of thinking you’ve adopted then you’re playing a dangerous game and it’s one of the reasons a spurned lover will act irrationally.

Firstly, for someone to decide to end a relationship takes courage and the decision is not made lightly so sure, they must really want to.  Whether they change their mind and eventually take you back depends a lot on how you react and behave to their decision.
There are many reasons to break up. The obvious reason is for infidelity. In this case, it’s usually a long road to haul before a reconciliation takes place.

But many of the other reasons make for interesting reading. The main thing to be aware of, when someone makes a decision to want out of a relationship, is that it’s usually because of something that has built up over time and eventually the bubble bursts.

Men And Women Break Up For Different Reasons

If you are trying to analyze why your partner has dumped you it may pay to first analyze your own behavior. Once you have isolated the possible reasons ask yourself whether you could have actually “nipped the break up in the bud” well before the “axe came down on your relationship.”

If you’re a man, you must understand certain things about the nature of women. Here are some points to take particular notice of:

- Women like to be appreciated. How did you score in this area? Have you appreciated what she did for you?

- Women like to be complimented. How many times have you complimented her either on her looks, her dress sense or any other area of your lives together where one would have be warranted.

- Women don’t like to be taken for granted. They pay particular detail to attention.

What Can Drive A Man Out Of A Relationship

On the other hand, men will leave women for different reasons. Here’s a couple of interesting ones:

- Men like to be admired. They also like to feel wanted. As a woman, how to you score with both of these points?

- Men hate being nagged. We don’t say this to offend women but how many times have you picked faults in your man? It’s a classic syndrome which develops in a relationship over time. What once was acceptable to a woman and admired of her man, now no longer strikes a chord. Yes, you can be critical but here’s the kicker, you also need to balance it out with expressions of admiration for the things he does do well in your book.

It’s often hard to end a relationship because under most circumstances, a break up is hard.  But remaining in a relationship that causes you stress or discomfort is much more harmful than the break-up.  The fact is, some people are deadbeats.  Not every relationship was destined to be, and no matter how hard you work at it, there’s not always a happy ending in the future.  There are several reasons to break up, but overall knowing when to break up depends on the tolerance of the individual. 

If your boyfriend isn’t always nice to your friends, can you stand it?  If your girlfriend tries to manipulate your lifestyle, does it bother you that much?  It’s important to weigh the positives and negatives of the situation before a decision is made.  But chances are if the relationship stresses you out on a daily or weekly basis, it’s not healthy, and it’s time to move on.