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You may be wondering just how to increase your connection with your female partner and what you can do to make her feel that special “chemistry” for you. If you serious about it we are here to offer you two dating tips that are guaranteed to help you create or even  increase the “chemistry” in your relationship.

The first tip is to listen carefully to her when she is speaking  in a conversation and be careful to use the same words and word phrases she uses to describe events and people in her past.  If she talks about her parents, use the same name she calls them “Mom, Dad, Mother, Father, etc.. ” when you refer to them. The same is true f noting the adjectives she uses to describe things.  Whatever she says, make sure you say the same thing and describe things the same way.

The second step  is similar to the first but involves noticing the body language her exhibits when you’re with her. If she has a casual posture then that should be your posture when you are with her.  If she’s more excited and energetic then you should be the same way. As she changes her body language you make sure yu keep up  an mirror her body language as best you can.  Just be sure that you are not too obvious

Remember chemistry “happens” between people  who, unbeknownst to even themselves, have a basis of similarity.

So you’ve decided that you want to settle down and get serious about your relationship. You may be looking for someone who just may be around throughout your lifetime. Here are a few dating tips and things to keep in mind to make your journey a little easier.

1)Set realistic and achievable goals. Make your intentions clear. Maybe you want to make two or three new good friends in the next year.  That’s a good place to start.

2)Define your criteria. What exactly do you want? Make a list of things you want in your soon to be partner. Be specific and thorough.

3)Know your limits.  List your non-negotiables, the things that just wont tolerate.  Don’t be afraid to draw the line.

4)Interview well, ask good questions and wait and see if their actions match their words. Remember time will tell if the person is really who they pretend to be. Take note of any signs of contradiction.

5)Dont compromise or settle (even if you’re bored or desperate, you’ll be sorry you did!).

6)Be truthful, even when its uncomfortable, better now than later.

7)Set your boundaries regarding money, men, and all things sacred!

8)Don’t be selfish in your approach. Give as much as you get and make sure it flows the other way too!

9)Relax. Take your time, no need to rush. Don’t be in such a hurry to make things work.  Getting to know a new friend is fun and should be savored, and trust is built over time

10) Most of all, be real, be yourself, and have some fun!

And remember, great relationships, including friendships, begin within! Be happy and enjoy your life. Don’t wait until you’ve found your friend to enjoy yourself.  Enjoy yourself and let them join you while you enjoy them.

Finding friends is, in many cases, no easy task; especially given the culture we live in. The cell phone, text messaging, Facebook and Twitter based friendships have defined a new level of relationships.  Finding your friends isn’t as easy as it seems but, like all good things, is definitely worth the work!

So, how do you tell if someone is the right material to be your new boyfriend or girlfriend? The same signals arise when it comes to friendship as they do in an intimate relationship. Its safe to say that we are looking for many of the same things in a friendship that we are looking for in a relationship. Here are some relationship advice on things you should look for and take note of when in the hunt:

1)Someone you enjoy spending time with. (you actually like)

2)Someone you have something in common with

3)Someone who listens to you and someone you can stand to listening to

4)Someone who shows genuine interest in you and your happiness

5)Someone who can tolerate your weaknesses and your quirks

6)Someone who will stand up for you and has your back if need be

7)Someone you can count on and is dependable

8)Someone who tells the truth even if you don’t want to hear it (with compassion when needed)

9)Someone who doesn’t care if you’re overweight and can see you for who you are and not what you look like

10)Someone who can love you unconditionally

Finding these select few can take some weeding out. The only way to do it is to take a chance and get to know people. You never know when you will find Mr or Ms right and surprisingly enough they just might be right around the next corner. So get out and take a walk, smile and say Hello.

It’s been said that it’s not disagreement that causes unhappiness, but its disappointment and anger.  If we learn to eliminate those feelings in ourselves, not only will we be happier, but we can virtually eliminate conflict in our relationships since our partners will find it difficult to stay in conflict with us when we are loving and happy.  So the key method of eliminating anger will be the subject of our current discussion ad hopefully this information will help you eliminate relationship problems.

Every time you find yourself becoming irritated or unhappy, take one of the following steps. They can be taken in any order and repeated as often as you like.

Be Quiet -  Why would you knowingly destroy your own happiness or the love you want in your relationship? But that’s what you do every time you speak to your partner in anger. When you’re angry you will never say anything loving or productive, so therefore, when you’re angry, DO NOT SPEAK.

Be Wrong - You cannot keep up your end of a conflict when you admit that you’re wrong. When you admit that you’re wrong, the fire of the conflict will die for a lack of fuel. So any time you feel disappointment or anger, repeat, “if I’m disappointed or angry, I’m wrong” and you won’t be able to maintain those feelings for long.

Feel loved - Remember that you are loved. We become afraid in a conflict, and subsequently react in anger, only when we don’t feel loved. When we are absolutely certain that we are loved the disagreements and anger of other people are no longer threatening to us. If we feel loved we won’t become afraid and we’ll have no need to get angry.

Get Loved - Sometimes remembering that you are loved is not enough.  You may need to feel loved in the present. You may need to call a loving friend and experience the love personally to eliminate the anger. Find someone who you can talk to honestly and tell the truth about yourself and create the opportunity to feel love unconditionally.

Be Loving - Do something loving. Eliminate your anger by choosing to do something unconditionally loving.  Perform an act of service, have a friendly conversation, thank your partner, touch your partner, tell him/her you love them.  When you’re angry at your partner, you may not feel like doing something loving for him or her. But if you do it anyway, you’ll create an opportunity for both of you to feel the miracle of love in your lives.

There’s a familiar relationship pattern commonly observed among people in which they move quickly into a new relationship or even romance after the old one dies (or, sometimes, while it’s still limping along). This new relationship is often referred to as  “on the rebound.”  Sad and brokenhearted, such a person finds a kindly soul who’s willing to offer a comforting shoulder, a esteem building compliment, an accepting embrace, or even a bed. The kindly soul offers support and relationship advice, believing that this will lead to healing, renewal, and love. And lo and behold, it does — but seldom with the kindly soul.  Often, the person who once seemed a source of comfort now becomes just a reminder of old pain and soon realizes they were just being used to soften the blow of the previous relationship. A happy new life begins — with a happy new partner, someone who wasn’t around for any of the bad old stuff and soon the relationship fades away because it had no real root in genuine love and concern.

If you’re fresh from a breakup, you can recognize this pattern for what it is, and choose to get your comfort from people who don’t want long-term love. If you’re tempted to play the role of the kindly soul, take two steps back and give the rebounder time and space to heal before expressing your interest.

Many couples find themselves challenged by the dynamics of a long distant relationship. They find themselves lost in the maze of trying to maintain and nurture the relationship from a distance yet maintain the freedom that a long distance relationship affords.  On the contrary, to some couples, “dating at a distance” is seen as the best of both worlds. They can live their lives without having to pay constant attention to the needs of a partner. Yet, the enjoy the luxury of having a person with whom they can connect periodically to get a regular dose of romance and fun.

After a while, this can be a double-edged sword, however.

Many couples in long distance relationships find it to be so much fun and, in a way, so low-impact on their day-to-day lives, that they soon become convinced that this relationship is obviously “the one.” And sometimes it is and sometimes it’s not but it’s hard to judge a relationship from a distance.

Perhaps no long distance relationship advice is more important than to be careful. Don’t overestimate a long distance relationship’s potential to translate into a regular relationship where you live in the same town, same home, and are headed towards long-term commitment.

The long distance relationship makes it easy to always be on one’s best behavior. Anyone can be accommodating, flexible, and attentive for a long weekend. This says little, in most cases, about how accommodating, flexible and attentive each party will be if you see each other every day, or even live in the same home.

So the best dating advice for long distance relationships is to always remember: a long distance romance is NOT real life. It can be a wonderful little bubble that floats through real life. Real life happens when you step outside that bubble to incorporate both your habits, idiosyncrasies, faults, families, jobs. Life becomes very different from what it was inside that bubble. Remember the saying “Only fools rush in”.

People are always wondering what they should  do to find their true love and their ultimate soulmate. Many are under the impression that they can just do nothing and that the soulmate will appear out of nowhere and sweep them away.  Others expect soulmates to hit them like lightning out of the blue. They go on looking, while the perfect partner is right there with them every day, listening to them, being available,  and being fully trusting. For those of you who think this way or find themselves in this situation I have news for you. You need to wake up and smell the coffee!  You are about to miss out on one of the most rewarding and life changing experiences of your life. Your true Soulmate.

The key to finding your soulmate is first identifying what a soulmate really is.  It’s very hard to find something when you don’t know what it is or even what it looks like.  So first lets define what a soulmate really is.  A soulmate is first and foremost a best friend. Someone who makes you feel comfortable and is trustable.  So my simple love tip is this, if you have a best friend that is available for a deeper relationship, maybe you should think about him or her. It might be time to realize that those traits that make your friend so perfect are the same traits a soulmate would share.