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Online dating is rapidly growing and is the networking tool of choice for many young people and old people too. Online  opens up numerous possibilities for a relationship, especially when you are starting over from a recent breakup or even divorce.  People find it extremely helpful when moving to a new city or location where you don’t know many people.  To help make your  online dating experience successful here are some online dating tips you should be aware of before diving in to the online dating sites.

1.  Planning is important

As the saying says “Failure to plan is planning to fail”. Know what you are looking for in a relationship before searching online dating sites.  Are you looking casual entertainment to spend the weekend with someone or are you looking for love?  It may be you are looking for a person to develop a long-term relationship. Decide what you want and plan accordingly to get the best out of online dating. Meeting someone new can be challenging and sometimes risky so express your desires before face-to-face meetings. This will prevent you from getting hurt or hurting someone else.

2. Consult your network of friends.

As the saying goes “In the council of many there is safety”.  Ask your friends, colleagues and associates about websites they have used for online dating. Your friends may have spent time in chat rooms or browsing through profiles and been successful in finding relationships. Be smart and don’t just  choose a service at random. Take their advice about which sites to use. Don’t try to reinvent the wheel.

3. Be Patient

Patience is a virtue and a requirement for anything worth having. There are no time limits in online dating. Take your time and make the best use of your e-mail or chat rooms screen potential dating partners. Its important to know who you are dealing with to make sure you are compatible before meeting each other.Rushing through the screening process can lead to disaster.

4. Be honest

Honesty is always the best policy. There are many people in online dating sites that are sincere and looking for healthy relationships. For best results you should be sincere and honest too.  However, there are also individuals who may not be truthful and may look to deceive you with the information provided in the chat room or personal profile.  So be smart and do your homework. Don’t hesitate to crosscheck with public records or make a few verification phone calls. Be decent in your communications with the other person to make him/her at ease to be open and honest with you.

5. Be safe:

Common sense makes the best sense. Don’t get carried away lose your common sense.  Maintain your anonymity in the initial stages of online dating. Never reveal your telephone number or home/workplace address unless you have met and critically evaluated the person. Trust your intuition and stop communicating if you feel the person is pushing you too fast or if you feel suspicious of their intent.  Quick tip: Do not entangle with married people.  The effect on the person’s family and on you may be more than you expected.  Following these online dating tips  will make your online dating experience enjoyable and nurture healthy relationships.

Job or office romances can really work but it actually requires a lot of good common sense. Spending a lot of time around the same people every day naturally allows you the opportunity to get to know them better and become more comfortable around them. This can often lead to casual talking, joking, laughing—maybe even flirting.

But when you date someone in your office, it is vitally important that you leave your relationship drama at home where it belongs. Not in the office amongst you co-workers. Otherwise you may end up in the HR department for a talk about the office’s dating policy or even worse in your boss’s office for a reprimand. Keeping work professional and keeping what you do personally from interfering is something we all must do. But there’s no denying that the interference can happen. So here are some office dating tips for you to think about before making your move, and to remember once (or if!) you do.

Think Before You Step
Dating a coworker can be like “walking through a minefield with big clown shoes.” Don’t be so quick to jump freely and willingly into a relationship without considering all the consequences. Especially if the other person is a superior or someone with whom we work closely or regularly. Sometimes the relationship may not work out and them you’ve got a bitter and sometimes revengeful person to deal with. So you have to decide: Is it worth the risk to you? People can lose jobs and get sued because of relationships gone bad.

Control Your Excitement
Admittedly, an office fling can definitely spice up your life and add lots of excitement. Don’t go overboard and forget where you are and what you are there to do. Many people get caught up in the excitement and forget to focus on their work. Instead they expend all their energy wooing the other person or talking to other co-workers about you new found love. Determine to keep it low key while in the office and involve as few people as you can to prevent the work distraction.
Likewise, if the relationship fails, try not to dwell on what went wrong. Mulling over a relationship gone bad is what you do at home while eating ice cream and watching that tearjerker for the fifteenth time, not an activity to do at your desk.

Finally, everyone can benefit from heeding this advice if they are serious about pursuing a relationship at work. With the right partner, the right mindset, the right perspective, and the right attitude, you can make it work. You never know whether your true love and future soulmate is in the next office cubicle or just down the hall.

The most important element to focus on in a relationship is the interaction between the partners during their normal conversations.  Many times individuals don’t realize the  amount of negativity that’s portrayed in the course of their normal day to day conversations. The number one tip to ensure  healthy relationships IS the following:

STOP ALL SHAME, BLAME  AND CRITISM.

Be clear, specific and positive in your conversation and always remember to express appreciation for your partner. To elaborate: Men need to feel competent—that they make a contribution and that it is noticed.  Women need to feel special and secure in their relationships.

Change you mindset from a negative one to a positive one. “Change from a critical habit of mind, in which you’re very involved with your partner’s mistakes, to a positive one, in which you catch him doing something right.”

When your relationship starts to break down, remember to call AAA:an Apology, Affection, and a promise of Action. Remember to say you’re sorry for what you’ve said or done to hurt or disappoint your partner. Immediately offer a hug, a kiss—some meaningful gesture of warmth and affection. Pledge to do something that matters to your partner. Then take action and do it.

What many women fail to understand is that there usually isn’t only one reason why a man will not commit in a relationship. Although the list is exhaustive, there are 3 main areas that usually describe why a man is hesitant to make a commitment. Here are the three areas that would be worth while to consider if you are in a situation and trying to understand the lack of commitment on his part. Hopefully these dating tips for women will provide you with some general ideas or possible reasons for his lack of commitment and also some possible solutions to the dilemma.

1. He’s already getting everything he wants.

You may have heard the old saying “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” This phrase applies to having sex with a man as most women conclude but it also usually applies to much more. Whether its doing his laundry, fixing his food, taking care of the housework, running his errands, or even giving him money he’s getting all the benefits of a married relationship. So from his perspective, why does he need to commit.

2. He’s afraid of commitment…..

Fear of the unknown will cause many men to stop in their tracks when it comes to commitment. It may be that he has been hurt emotionally in the past or from failed romantic relationships. Generally men don’t handle emotional pain well. Their primary defense against getting hurt again is to avoid any relationship they feel might end up the same way. The problem is that they tend to think the “right” woman is one that makes them feel wonderful “all the time.” This is a feat that even the little boy’s mother can’t fulfill. No woman can be “wonderful” all the time. However consistency in you attitude and dealings with him may help eliminate the “unknown” aspect of your relationship.

3. His timing is different than yours…

A woman’s time is measured by moments, a man’s time is measured by events. Therefore a man may take longer to make this decision than the woman thinks he should. However unlikely, it does happen. For men over the age of 30-years-old, it usually doesn’t take more than a few months for them to realize whether a woman would make an good wife. Although he may not propose to her that soon, he usually has an idea as to whether or not she is “the one.” If he is still undecided on how he feels about her after 6 months, more than likely its due to one of the first two reasons I mentioned.

If he is under 30-years-old, it might take him longer to decide. Men in their 20’s have additional issues such as finances that can be a big deal to men. Many men at this age are busy enjoying the freedoms of being single and are simple not yet ready to relinquish this season of their life. Understanding and accepting this is often all you can do while you wait for the season to change. Remember after every exciting summer there comes a fall and barren winter.