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Understanding why marriages fail can alert couples to their own unique relationship vulnerabilities. The more information you have to help you identify potential marriage problems the easier it will be to address them.

Here are five reasons marriages fail and 5 marriage tips to prevent your marriage from going down the same road.

1. Some  marriages fail because  they  started for the wrong reasons. Therefore,  for this marriage to survive, you must learn to separate the person you married from the reasons you married him/her. You must focus on breaking the negative associations and see the person you now call “husband” or “wife” for who they really are.

2. Some couples have grown apart over the years and they no longer share any common interests. Therefore, you must make the commitment to keep your marriage/relationship a priority and not let life and competing priorities  get between you and your spouse.

3. Unresolved conflicts and deep emotional wounds can shatter the fabric of your union. Therefore, you must be bold enough to have those uncomfortable discussions to make sure important issues are resolved before they go underground and begin to fester. Seek professional help if necessary to keep things moving in the right direction.

4. One or both parties can unconsciously repeat unhealthy relationship patterns derived from their family-of-origin. Reflect on your parents and their relationship and decide you want to be different from them in your role as a husband/wife or partner. Each day make a conscious effort to stop negative family-of-origin patterns.

5.  The marriage or relationship can be built upon unreal expectations that cannot support the realities of a committed relationship. Therefore, we must examine the expectations you hold about marriage and share this with your spouse.  We must take every opportunity to discuss any differences in perspective that may exist between you. In addition,  we should take a close look to determine which expectations feel realistic and which are likely to buckle under the day-to-day realities of life.

The above list captures some of the most common, essential reasons marriage problems arise and the preventative measures needed to keep your marriage or relationship healthy.

How long do you think a person should wait to start dating after ending a longterm (over 2 yrs) relationship? Should they wait 3 months? 6 months? Should they even wait at all? Would it depend on if they are looking for something long term or a one nightstand? How soon is too soon? Maybe it depends on why the prior relationship ended? Looking for answers to these tough questions? Follow this link to www.prelationship.com to get expert dating advice from around the web.

Remember, there are no set rules on the time when a person should move on in my opinion. I think it depends on the person. Everyone is different.  People should not judge others and let folks be themselves when they decide. I believe in encouragement or positive feedback on taking time to heal but I think ultimately individuals should do what they want in order to be happy or to simply learn a valuable lesson for their future. My recommendation is to give “time” time. Give it time & heal. Some people can move on faster than others.

If you were in love with the person at the time of the break up - then you definitely need to wait until you can safely say you are free in your heart. Jumping into something new will only hurt the next person and that’s just not right. Then again, it also depends on how and why the prior relationship ended.  It could have been a long time coming and if you’re ready who’s to say what’s a good time for you. Again, just make sure you are healed.

People frequently get themselves into sticky situations where feelings run riot and people get caught up, in a world of emotion and sometimes potential hurt or heartbreak. I’m assuming if you’re reading this that you’re involved in a “friends with benefits” situation that you’d like to change. Perhaps you’re reading to find a way of turning that friend with benefits into more. It’s understandable; people need people, and intimacy is desired by even the most recluse…This article was written by David of Dating Nation - a home for expert dating advice from around the web. If you’re looking to turn that friend with benefits into a long lasting, loving relationship but they just aren’t buying it, read further into this article and discover how to date a friend with benefits.

Do You Want to Date Them in The First Place?

Do you actually want this person in the first place? In seriousness it’s best to look before you leap when your heart’s at stake (although just between you and I, sometimes not looking can be pretty fun!). You should ask yourself whether you really want THIS PERSON for more, or whether you’re just looking to feel more fulfilled emotionally. Is it this person you want, are they right for you, or are you simply craving feelings which they’re simply not supplying right now? Do you want the feelings, or the person along with them?

How to Get Them to Want More - Think About Their Feelings

Studies throughout history have shown that people are emotionally driven. In fact, some really clever people have actually put a figure on it - people make decisions on a emotional basis (around 90% is based on emotion), whilst only 10% of typical decision making is based on logic. The good thing about emotions though, is that they’re almost always subject to change. A person’s feelings and viewpoints today might be completely different tomorrow. If you’re in any way close to a person or even in slight rapport you have the ability to influence and change a person’s feelings and viewpoints.

In order to change a person’s feelings and viewpoints you first need to consider what they need to feel in order to see you as “the right one to settle with”. Notice I said consider what they need to FEEL. What would need to happen in order for them to want to settle down? Which emotions would they need to feel and experience in order to think that they’d want to be more than friends with benefits with you? If you don’t know, try asking them!

Some People Just Aren’t Worth The Hassle

Even if you’ve gone to all the trouble of asking them how they need to feel; even if you’ve gone to all the trouble of helping them experience the emotions they need to feel in order to take your relationship further, and even if they’re experiencing the needed emotions fully, there are some people who simply don’t want to settle down just yet. There are reasons and circumstances beyond control of emotion and feeling, and likewise there are stronger emotions that people may feel they need to follow before biting the bullet and settling down with someone awesome like yourself. Sometimes it’s just better to let go and fly.

Conclusion

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How do you stop loving someone who you are DEEPLY in love with, but for various reasons the relationship doesn’t work. You love them but you can’t be with them? How do you turn off your emotions? Especially when you have to see this person everyday, Here’s some breakup advice that will help you get over it and move on.

It’s obvious that you must limit your interaction with this person. NO more phone calls. With time, any emotional attachment and feelings will subside after a while. Detach yourself from the delusion first. You need to come to realization that you two can’t be together. Not sure why you got yourself in this situation to begin with, BUT you’re there, so how you do release yourself from a painful reality?

First remove all things that remind you of this person; any pictures, phone messages, text messages etc.. If  you see this person daily at work for instance, walk the other way. Keep it professional no matter how hard it is. Concentrate and utilize mind over matter.

Remember, it’s never easy to turn your emotions off. You can’t help it. Start filling that void with something else to occupy your time. Don’t read a book, its useless. You’re not gonna be able to concentrate.  Go out and be amongst your friends.

Because you are “Deeply” in love, sex probably played a factor. Needless to say you must show restraint. Don’t continue to have sex anymore. You have to be strong.  Understand you are only setting yourself up to get hurt. You have to take the first step if you don’t want to feel this yearning and desire anymore. Only you have control over your feelings and emotions. Don’t look to the person you are dealing with to help you with this.

But if you are seeing a married man-STOP NOW! Do yourself a favor. He is not gonna leave his wife. Don’t get caught up. You know better. If you are married, same advice. I hope your spouse doesn’t find out. But seriously, you must find a way to detach yourself.

Personally, you will be fine. Forgive yourself and love yourself enough not to get caught up in a situation like this again. The healing process is not gonna be easy.  Have patience. Don’t be too hard on yourself but get out now. Save your sanity and your dignity. Find someone you can be with without stipulations.