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Men are always looking for ways to get their relationship to last but they seldom find the answers until it’s too late.  As the saying says “hindsight is 20:20″. So what’s the secret to long term relationships with women? Here is some  relationship advice for men who are looking for long term relationship success with women.

One common mistake men make is to pay attention to what women say they want.  Instead of listening to their words you got to take notice of their behavior and figure out what they really want. If you know what they really want you can adjust your approach to accentuate the things they are really looking for and minimize the things that would lessen your chances for a long term relationship.

When you analyze what they say and what they finally do it becomes obvious that the two are not the same.  Many women say that they want one type of man but end up going out with and having relationships with their opposite.  They tend to follow and be guided by their subconscious mind.

When it comes to long term relationships, a woman’s  maternal instinct is usually going to be predominant. So, women end up looking for somebody, often subconsciously,  who will make a good father for her children.

They will look for security and a man that will care for her children and give them all that they need. They look for a man who possesses a confident attitude and exhibits stability. Because of this, the man’s job and salary carries a lot of weight and a man with a steady job and consistent income will have the advantage.  In addition, women will often associate the strength of a man with his capacity for providing for her children.

If you are in a relationship or even pursuing a long term relationship with a woman, remember these important tips and keep in mind the things she is going to consider.  Be prepared to pass the test and assure her that  she, and most importantly, her future children will be in good hands.

In my searching around the internet I ran across these tips for guys on knowing when a woman is attracted to you.  I hope these relationship tips and advice for men will help you decide if she is worth pursuing or if you are just wasting your time.

Before we start here’s a background note.  Women are known to be talkative.  However, a woman is a “bilingual” to a certain extent, and she is as articulate in body language as she is in the words on paper. Therefore, when it comes to feelings and relationships, women use both forms to convey their message. Hence, the only way to succeed in analyzing if the woman really likes you is to listen closely and decode her body language.
Here is a list of the most common moves that would literally tell you that she is interested in you and tips on how to respond to these actions.

Tip 1:  Self-stroking

You are talking to a woman and you notice her slowly running her hand up and down her forearm.  It is a tactile woman!

She loves the feel of things on her hand, and most probably the rest of her body. A simple movement like that speaks pages. It is like telling you, “Look at my hand, pretend it is yours.”

What to do:  Give her a few strokes but keep your hands on neutral territory.
A touch on the shoulder, a tap on the top of her hand would be enough. If she is telling you what you hope she is telling you, she will easily focus her tactile fixation on you.

Tip 2:  The Hair-Behind-Ear Tuck

Most women have this technique down pat. It may be an affection of the typical and much sought-after demure lady.

For the most part, it shows that your girl is a preneer. She likes to have every strand of hair to be in place; and a single one of them is out of line. That is the ear tuck power.

What to do: Pay her a compliment. Any compliment will do, but a “I like your hair like that” may just be the ticket that she has been waiting from you.

Tip 3: Puppy Dog Eyes

Awww! She is so cute. Those big doe eyes are practically begging for assistance. She needs your help and you must willingly give it.

Although this tactic is used mostly for flat tires and bus seats, it works quite well in the flirting and pick-up scene as well.

What to do: When the puppy dog’s eyes come on, jump into action. Snap your fingers and order a drink for her. Offer her a chair. Do not overdo it though, because women are totally capable of themselves, and the only reason why she appears like a damsel in distress is the fact that she likes you and she is interested to know you better.

Tip 4: The Laugh and Touch Combo

At an appropriate time in the conversation, you whip out your favorite joke to seal the deal with your date. She laughs unabashedly, leans towards you, and plants an unassuming hand on your thigh, arm, or shoulder.

So she thinks you are funny, right? Wrong. The upside down, though, is that she is into you, downright interested in you, despite the  joke. This is her way of showing you that she is easy to get along with and open to possibilities that involve you.

What to do: Talk about things that border on the intimate, but end with a self-deprecating joke. This will keep you from going too heavy but at the same time, it sends out the signal that you like her too and that you are comfortable with her.

Providing the appropriate responses to these common moves will launch you both into the exciting world of the “getting-to-know-you-better” stage.

Women are always looking for tips and advice about how to get closer to a man.  It true that every woman wants to bond with her man emotionally but very few know what’s most important  concerning getting a man to bond with you.  My first advice is to remember and recognize that men don’t bond the same way as women.  So the methods they use to bond with other women will not work with a man.

When women ask how to get closer to the man they love, they are often implying something different. What they are really asking is “How do I get him to bond with me the way that I want?”,  “How can I get him to be more romantic?” or “How can I make him share his feelings more?”

Notice that what they are asking in the statements above is “How do I get him to want to do what I do?” The first thing that a woman needs to do is to realize that bonding with a man isn’t the same as getting him to do what she wants.

Once you have made this realization, you will see that getting a man to bond with you is simpler than most women realize. You must understand there is a process that must be followed and these next few relationship tips and advice for women will help you follow that process. However, this process doesn’t usually involve the activities that most women would prefer.  For a man, one of the greatest thrills is having a woman share a wonderful activity that HE enjoys.

Women, take careful note of this important tip;

If you don’t stir up his emotions, he won’t connect with you on the level that you want.

Which brings us to the next point- what causes his emotions to be stirred is most likely not what affects your emotions. That’s why going on a picnic or watching a romantic movie doesn’t have much of an effect on a man. Men bond through a shared activity. On the other hand, women bond though shared words and thoughts. Sitting down next to him while he’s watching a football game may seem as exciting as watching paint dry to you, but for him it’s pure heaven. He’s got you close and he gets to watch something he enjoys. The mistake many women make is they sit with a man while he watches something he enjoys and tries to talk to him. Woman, that’s not the time for talking!

The good news is that you don’t have to do this all the time. Just every so often, step into his world of sports, hobbies or whatever interests him as his partner. You’ll soon begin to notice how close he feels toward you.

Many women are so easily caught up in conversation about day to day things and the event of the household that they fail to share the most important things with their man. As a result of this oversight, many men become uninterested and numb to the constant dialog of their woman. So my advice for the woman to keep the relationship fresh and on track, it that it’s important for woman to share these 3 things regularly with their man. If they don’t, sooner or later he may find someone else who will.

1.   He wants you to share when you’re proud of him…  If you didn’t know this already, men really like to show off.  Just be sure it’s something you really do like because if you praise him, you’ll likely get more of it.

2.   He wants you to share when you’re upset, and let him know what he can do to help…  The important thing is to give him a task that he can do to help. If you just want him to listen - tell him.  Don’t expect him to “just know” that is what you need.  A man often feels like he’s being weak just sitting there while you’re hurting.  He wants to fix it.  Ask him to listen, and tell him how good that makes you feel.

3.    He wants you to share when you’re excited and happy…  If more women only understood how important it is for a man to be able to make you happy, it would change the complexion of many a relationship. Remember, men aren’t nearly as intuitive as your girlfriends are.  Men learn by watching your reaction. A good reaction (full of nice happy feelings) means do this more. A bad reaction (when you cry or get upset) means don’t do that again.

Yes ladies, men really are that simple….

When it comes to giving the wrong impression there is one thing that believe it or not nearly all women do. Yet, they never realize they are doing it. I try not to make such an issue of it but part of the reason that I point this behavior out is that it actually comes across as unattractive to men. So what is that women do that give men the wrong impression and make them unattractive?

Most women don’t receive compliments well.

Actually, a more honest statement would be that most women are terrible at receiving compliments. They don’t want others to think they are arrogant, snobby or even worse - a b###ch. But in an attempt not to appear conceited, they fail to understand the impression they give to a man.

Here is one of the most important relationship tips for women. Ladies, learn how to properly receive compliments. When a man compliments you, he’s actually giving you something - like a flower or a gift. If you minimize his words, he feels like you are belittling his gift. If you do that enough times, you’ll train him not to give you these gifts or compliments at all. In effect, you’re telling him you don’t believe the nice thing he said about you. He won’t think you’re being humble, instead, he’ll soon believe that he was mistaken to believe or think it himself.

So what should you do?

When a man compliments you, do these three simple things:
1) Stop and look him in the eyes,
2) Smile (A genuine smile is the most effective)
3) Simply say “thank you.”

Oh, I realize it sounds simple, and it is. But if you begin doing this, you’ll find that it becomes a natural response. At first, receiving a compliment can be unnerving. It takes practice. But from a man’s perspective, it conveys confidence and here’s a tip ladies, it’s very attractive!

Are you one of the many who wonder if they’re in an unequal relationship? Do you even know what an unequal relationship is?  Well this information may help to first explain what an unequal relationship is and secondly, how to determine if you’re in one.

The idea of a “equal” relationship is often puzzling and frustrating to many men. Men think of equals as individuals or entities that they compete against. In this regard, a woman is justified in wanting to be treated as an equal in the workforce. But in a relationship, the last thing a man wants to do is  to complete with a woman (after all, they have their career, sports and guy friends for that).

These facts leave us with this assessment - what men don’t get from all their pursuits and accomplishments is someone that can awaken their feelings.  They don’t want an equal.  They want someone who is a complement. A complementary relationship is defined as having two separate and different partners that enhance or complete each other.  Note the key term “enhance” and the word “complete” not “compete”.

Women frequently ask, “Should I pay for dinner since he pays so often?” What they are implying is that it doesn’t seem fair for him to pay all the time. Yet, men don’t care about what is fair as much as you think. What the man paying for dinner is really concerned about is this: Will this make her happy? Does she seem to be having a good time? Will I score points with her on this one?

The thought of “when’s she gonna pay?” doesn’t even enter his mind. He’s not concerned with fair. He only wants to impress her. If he does impress her then he’ll say to himself, “Yep, I’m the man. She’s having a great time because I am a stud.” Yes, guys really do think like that.

In fact, in a perfect relationship, a woman should feel somewhat indebted to a man. Yes, that means that he should be giving more than she does.  If you’re uncomfortable with that arraignment, then you can opt for the equal relationship. The only problem is that it’s terribly boring. It is sort of like going to a high school dance with your cousin - safe but not very appealing. A passionate relationship means you allow him to be a man and he in turn cherishes you as the woman. It’s not subservient. In fact, it’s quite empowering for a woman.

If you are  stressed and unhappy and it seems like you going in circles with your relationship here are some relationship tips and relationship advice to help you in your situation.

First, if you both have time,  seek counseling together and allow things to be dealt with from both sides about the current situation.   I recommend you not rush to any decisions on either side but rather set up an appointment as soon as you can with a counselor.

However, if the stress of the relationship is taking a heavy toll on you in terms of health and well-being it might be wise,  despite your fear of being on your own,  to end this relationship and look for a healthier one.  One that will make you feel fulfilled and not overly dependent. Be honest with yourself if you sense that your stressful and unhappy relationship is leading no where. In this case I  don’t think that the both of you going to counseling would have any positive results.

If you are getting nothing but negative feelings from this stressful and unhappy relationship and although there might be some good days, the bad outweigh the good, then maybe it’s time to step back and put the relationship on hold.  Take some time away from them and see if your negative feelings diminish. With time you’ll get clearer vision as to what the relationship really means to you.  Just don’t waste your life  waiting for things to get better because chances are the probably wont.

If you are in a stressful and unhappy relationship I can understand the kind of pain you are in. If you’ve tried talking to your partner about how you feel and how mentally drained you are from the emotionally stress, maybe you need to listen to their side of the things. Maybe if you talk to them things may come to light which could enable you understand each other better.

It’s always a good idea to talk to them and try to understand things from their perspective, provided they are willing to reciprocate the same.  If they are trying to be ruthless and bent upon having their way in the relationship, then put your foot down and just walk out of the relationship.  If they  are unwilling to care for you, love you , respect you, treat you nicely, honor your wishes then all they are doing is using you and emotionally abusing you.   Sit yourself down,  analyze how you feel, what and how they make you feel and then decide whether you’re a better person being with them or without them.  If you find this difficult,  try to analyze whether they bring out the best in you or the worst or somewhere in between. Hopefully this relationship advice will clear your mind and enable you to have a better understanding of what you should do and what you should choose.

If you feel you are in a loveless marriage or your marriage has gone flat,  you may need some marriage advice on “How to get your husband to fall in love with you again? I’ll address some quick ways and sure tips that can help you win back the love of your husband.

1) If you feel you are in a “loveless marriage”, don’t assume too quickly that your husband doesn’t love you. He probably still does.  I found this quote that is often very true  “Falling out of love is a term that is often applied to hum-drum marriages but what it frequently means from the man’s point of view is that he has fallen out of love with the way the marriage is going.” He may have distanced himself from you because he was unhappy but couldn’t offer a more detailed explanation for his feelings.

2) Many men have a hard time accurately interpreting and communicating their feelings.  Even if they can’t communicate it effectively, what they often feel is that the relationship no longer makes them feel good about themselves anymore. At the beginning of your relationship, you both put your best foot forward and spent a lot of time and effort into making the other person feel good about you and about themselves. Go back to that mindset and do what you can do to recreate that environment.

3) Most relationships become stronger when both you and your partner  feel wanted, important, appreciated, interesting and competent, just to name a few. For men, these feelings are what makes him feel like he is in love. So, it’s important to understand that when he says (or you think) he doesn’t love you anymore, that might not be true. It’s very likely that he’s actually mourning the loss of the relationship that made him feel so great about himself.

4)  Tell your husband that you are feeling a distance in your marriage and let him know that you miss the closeness and intimacy that you once enjoyed.  Ask him if he wants to improve your marriage and let him know that it’s your desire too.   The goal here is to communicate your desire to your husband.

5) Identify the things that you miss the most in your relationship. If its the affection, then show more affection to your husband. If its appreciation, let him know you appreciate him first. Take the first steps and you’ll be surprised how he responds.  In the beginning he may look at you funny or totally reject your attempts. Don’t give up! In time you will have found the answer to “How to get your husband to fall in love with you again?”