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Romance ratings are important. Many people get into relationships without ever taking thought of their partner’s romance rating. This is very important if they are seriously thinking about establishing a long term, possible marriage, relationship.

The romance rating is how you rate the person’s romance aptitude from a zero (0) being the worst to a ten (10) being the best.  Some people have no romance ability at all and are dependent on their partner to provide the romance factor in their relationship. We should rate these as a zero (0).  Others are full of romanticism and thrive off of romance. They are always the instigators of the romance in the relationship and full of creative and exotic ways to romance their partner. We should rate these as a ten (10).

What people fail to realize is that by the time a person gets to the age of seriously looking for long term relationships, their romance rating is pretty much set.  It does not increase in the later years unless a major life changing event happens.

Many people who have been married for 10, 20, or 30 years often regret not taking this into account.  The think that as the years go by their partner will change and their romance ratio will increase. Well, surprise! In many cases the romance rating decreases even more.

So  a word to the wise. Before you decide to invest in a long term relationship, evaluate whether or not you are able to live with your partners romance rating and understand that chances are the romance rating may decrease as the years go by.  Are willing to live with that? This is a trade off you will have to factor in as you create your list of things you want in your mate.  Don’t be fooled by the early signs of romanticism. Look carefully at the romance rating of your partner based on the following criteria:

1) Are they vocal about their sexuality?

2) Are they initiators of intimacy or are they just responders?

3) Are they more interested in long romantic encounters or are they bottom line get it over with types?

4) Are they able to sustain long lead ins to intimacy or do they have a short attention span?

5) Are they creative in their expression of love or are they habitual and predictable?

6) Are they limited in their love vocabulary?

7) Are they able to express their passion or do they exhibit passion at all?

These are just a few criteria that you can use to determine both  you and your partner’s romance rating.  Consider it carefully when determining your compatibility.

Hope it helps,

Here’s a list of quick “Do’s” and “Nevers” for girls looking to build a lasting relationship. These are just some conversation pieces that come up in our normal conversation that might be a memory jogger for you girls out there looking to strike it big in your relationships. Here’s the quick list. Click the link for more relationship advice for women.

1. Do communicate with him.

BUT Never let him fall silent. Get him to talk.

2.  Do be honest with him.

BUT Never hide anything from him. Let him know how you really think and feel.

3. Do give him space if he needs it. You don’t want to be too clingy.

BUT Never give him too much were he feels he can do anything and it won’t affect you. Let him know there are limits.

4. Do remind him of how much you care for him, and how much he means to you because believe it or not they love to be admired just as much as we do.

BUT Never let him get away with treating you bad or disrespectfully in a way that either made you upset or uncomfortable. I don’t care how much you like him or how hard it took you to get him!! It will only get worst if you don’t speak up about it.

5. Do let him hang out with his buddies. Also let him pick his own friends, not you. If there is trust in this relationship you shouldn’t have to worry because you know in your heart that its you that he wants.

BUT Never let him wear the pants! Ladies now-a-days times are changing and sometimes a man needs to be put in his place every once in awhile, otherwise he’ll think he’ll have a say so in everything.

6. Do encourage him and motivate him to be better. This will show that you really care about him and his future. He’ll love that you’ll support him in just about anything he does.

BUT Never try to change him. You fell in love with him the way he looks so why try to change that? It will only make him confused and feel out of place. It’ll make trying to be with you a challenge and it shouldn’t have to be that way. Love him for him. Not his shirt or his amazing body. lol

Ahh and lastly….

7. Do tell him you love him but only when the time is right.

BUT Never rush it. Be patient. Let love come to you first. For now enjoy the moment of being with him. You never know, it could lead up to more than that!

Hope it helps,

Ladies, I appreciate your comments and additions if you have some.  Guys, I hope you are thinking of ways to counter this. Until next time…

You’re tired of being alone. You want to meet someone.

But you just can’t be bothered with the effort it takes.

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But when it comes to meeting men, we tend to think that we’re operating at a disadvantage.

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We’ve got a LOT of reasons to avoid trying to meet men. We’re good at convincing ourselves that we can’t be bothered with dating.

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Why You’re Still Single

You may have 101 reasons that you’re still single, but I’m not believing any of them.

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The fact is: if you really wanted to be in a relationship right now, you’d be in one.

But I suspect - and this is only a hunch - that you have a lot of fear inside where relationships are concerned.

I think you’re worried about putting yourself out there…

Worried about getting hurt…

Worried about what will happen when a man sees the “real you”…

Worried about what you’ll have to give up if you meet someone.

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But you’ll only hold yourself back if you allow your fears to affect how you live your life.

Do You Want a Relationship?

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by Amy Waterman

Dating SHOULD be easy.

There’s enough dating advice online, in women’s magazines, and on talk shows to solve every woman’s problems.

So why aren’t we all happily married to our perfect mate?

I asked myself this question recently when yet another lovely woman in her forties introduced herself to me, saying that she’d been single for the past decade and she was ready to give up on men.

“It’s too much work,” she said. “I can’t sit around waiting for a man to drop onto my front doorstep. I’ve got to get on with my life. And if that means that I don’t end up meeting someone, so be it.” She shrugged.

My heart dropped when she said that.

I know it’s difficult to meet men (and even more difficult to find one worth your time), but that doesn’t mean you have to GIVE UP on love.

Would you resign yourself to a lifetime alone just because it’s “easier” staying single?

I knew what I had to do.

Dating Advice for REAL Women

Most of us women don’t need more dating advice.

We’ve been married or in a serious relationship before. We’re not novices. We know more about men than a lot of people!

But what we DON’T know is why love isn’t happening as easily for us this time around.

There’s something tripping us up. Maybe there just aren’t as many good men around these days. Maybe we’re just not sending off the right vibes. Maybe the dating world has moved on. Maybe it’s old-fashioned to expect courtship and marriage anymore.

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My Story

I’ve spent the past five years devouring dating research as part of my quest to unravel what modern women need to know about love.

I can’t count the number of times I’ve read about some “magical secret” that would trigger a man’s psychological commitment switch, or some “secret power” that would enable a woman to seduce any man she laid eyes on.

To me, those kinds of tricks always seemed rather silly.

Like many women, I didn’t want power over men. I just wanted to be HAPPY. And part of “being happy” was having someone - just one man, thank you very much - to share my life with!

My needs were quite simple: all I wanted was someone I could trust, who loved me like I loved him, and who would be there for me no matter what. That’s it.

And I knew that I wasn’t alone. Most women, if they’re honest with themselves, want the same thing.

So why, then, was it still so hard?

Why couldn’t all the dating advice in the world change the fact that so many of us women were still on our own with no decent prospects in sight?

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I found the answer unexpectedly. It wasn’t in some dating manual or relationships guide. It was in a classic self-help book published back in the 1980s.

In an instant, it changed everything for me.

The secret to attracting love, I discovered, didn’t have anything to do with pushing a man’s buttons or making him see us in an attractive light.

That’s where we were all going wrong.

Most dating advice wrongly assumes that you need to DO something or CHANGE something about yourself to be more attractive to men.

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Welcome back to the fourth and final chapter of the 12 Power Principles To
Enrich Your Relationship series. By now you should have had plenty of time to study and put into practice the previous nine principles. By now you should have seen the results and reaped the benefits of putting these principles into action in your everyday relationships. Remember,  these relationship tips are applicable to any type of relationship, whether it’s Professional, Dating, Love, or Marriage. When put into proper action, these principles can and will turn any relationship into a growing, healthy and fulfilling relationship.  Once planted, these principles only need one ingredient, TIME.  So give them some time and watch them produce a harvest on your behalf.

Here are the final three power principles that will enrich your relationship. When added to the previous nine, these principles will enable you to build strong relationships that will survive the test of time.

10.) The Power of Asking

Think about how you feel when someone sincerely asks you for help. You feel flattered, honored, good about yourself, acknowledged, etc.  Sometimes we forget that people do want to contribute but you must reach out to them in the proper manner.  The first step in developing the power of asking is to shift your attitude about asking for help. You must ask in a way that gives people the permission and incentive to get involved. By permission, I mean you must ask in a none defensive way that lets the other person now its safe to get involved.  By incentive, you must ask in a way the makes the individual feel motivated to get involved. I like to use the phrase ” I really think you would be able to help me with this..” This makes the person eager to get involved just to prove I was right. This in turn makes them feel better about themselves and the confidence you have in them.

You must learn the six steps to being effective with your requests. 1) Be clear about what you want and why you are asking them, 2) Ask for what you want, 3) get to the point and be as concise and specific as possible, 4) Make your request with no demands or strings attached,  5) Ask in a way that makes people feel acknowledged and included,  6) Ask often so people can become comfortable with you asking.

11.) The Power of Thinking Big

One frequent problem in relationships is that people often underestimate the value and worth of other individuals. Remember, you never know, until you take the time to get to know someone, what they may have to offer. Don’t prejudge them. Each and every person is a wealth of information, ideas, experiences, and connections.  Always keep the attitude that there’s always more to a person than what meets the eye.  Keep a positive outlook on the future and think big about your potential and the potential of others. Even if they don’t recognize their potential, you recognize it and let them know you recognize it.  This has a drawing effect that will draw them to you. Continue to talk about their potential until they agree with you and soon they will recognize it too.  This will develop a strong bond in your relationships that will keep them coming back to you for affirmation.

12.) The Power of Commitment

The difference between a mediocre relationship that produces occasional satisfaction and gratitude and a strong, fulfilling relationship is the level of commitment each person has based on a deep awareness of the long-term value of the other person. People today tend to be oriented toward immediate gratification and rather than long-term satisfaction. Don’t let this kind of thinking trap you into short and un-fulfilling relationships.   Making a commitment to your relationship means making a commitment to your life, and to having a life of richness that only comes from full, nurturing, caring relationships with an emphasis of pursuing common goals and dreams.

Stephen Covey says, “Without involvement, there is no commitment.” Learn to stay involved in each others life.  Set goals and work together to achieve them. Make a promise and keep it. By making and keeping our promises, little by little our honor becomes greater than our moods.  Keeping a promise to someone is the key to developing the trust and respect that build a perfect relationship. The foundation of a perfect relationship is in the level of commitment of the partners, and their ability to show their care, trust, love, support, and interest in one another.  Making a commitment to your relationships  is the most powerful step toward a life of richness and fulfillment.

Hope it helps,

Found this great mini article from Bob Grant and wanted to share it with our viewers. Great nuggets of wisdom are shared here. Hope you women pick them up. Here it is. Enjoy!

Why is it that men get quiet when they are upset? For many women the silence of a man can cause more doubt and fear than a raised voice. It’s the wondering that makes it so hard when your mind starts asking these questions - “Is he mad at me,” “Is he going to leave me?”

I use to think that women were just too sensitive about a man being silent. I understood what it meant when my buddy got quiet and I assumed that the reasons were just as obvious to women as well. Fortunately for me (and my marriage) I realize that most women really don’t know what he’s really thinking when he stops talking. Here are some tips for the women in case you run into this awkward situation.

Let me give you the 2 main reasons why men get quiet and emotionally pull away.

1) He doesn’t know what’s wrong - Strange as it may seem often times men simply don’t know what’s bothering them. This happens when they are under a lot of stress. It isn’t one particular thing that feels overwhelming, but the combination of everything.

Their boss is fussing at them, their bank account has less money this month than they had hoped and you (the wonderful woman in their life) have been reminding him that he’s not paying enough attention to you.

Now there could be a dozen different reasons for any man to feel overwhelmed, I just picked those three. If this is the reason he’s quiet it means he feels that he needs to concentrate on making things better and he doesn’t know how. Talking about it may make him feel better but in most men’s mind he won’t feel better until he sees his circumstances change.

2) He’s mad at you and he’s punishing you - When you ignore someone you get the best of both worlds. You get to be angry and the other person does all the work but asking, “What’s wrong?” You don’t have to be vulnerable.

You’re free to sit in self pity while the other person feels the pain of being ignored. Most men know that ignoring a woman is easier than talking to her when you’re upset. It’s childish and mean, but a lot of men do this at times - including me.

What should you do?

When you notice him being quiet simply ask him if anything is wrong. If he says, “nothing” then ask him once more. If he still remains quiet then do this. Fix him his favorite drink and tell him, “I’ll be in the next room if you need me.” (Or if you’re dating you’d say, “I’m going to go home now.”)

Here’s what that does. If he’s really upset about something and not mad at you he’ll be thankful that you have left him alone so that he can focus on is problem. He’ll also be glad that you’ve told him where you’ll be so that he can find you should he want to talk.

If he’s angry at you he’ll be upset because his desire is to punish you. You will be training him that you will ask him what’s wrong but you won’t beg him to tell you. You are modeling for him that if he’s upset with you he can talk about it, but you are not going to be around him while he’s sulking.

It is so sad to hear stories of people trapped in an unhealthy relationship and they can’t seem to get out of for one of two reasons. 1) They don’t realize or accept that the relationship is unhealthy or 2) they don’t have the emotional strength or courage to break free thinking that if they stay there things will get better.  The truth is that they seldom do.  Usually an unhealthy relationship only gets progressively worse over time until the relationship totally dissolves. By this point the damage is already done to your emotional health, physical health, self esteem, and personal confidence.

The worst part of being in an unhealthy relationship is that everyone else can notice it’s negative effects on you before you do. No matter how much they hint around it and suggest that your relationship is not good for you or unhealthy, the more you go into denial. Many times people will stay in an unhealthy relationship just to prove others wrong. They say “Oh, he/she is not so bad.” “If you really knew him/her like I do, you would see they’re not bad people”.  The point is not that they are bad people, the point is that the relationship is bad for you.  Usually it takes a person to really hit a low point in their relationship before their eyes are opened to the damaging effects.

This is often even more pronounced when there is a dependence of the other person (whether its emotionally, financially, socially, physically, etc…) and you are focused on what the other person can do FOR you rather than what the relationship is doing TO you.  These type of unhealthy relationships are the hardest to break out of.

So, lets look at twelve relationship tips that address  some of the warning signs you should look for? We understand that no one is perfect,  but if you are experiencing some of the following dynamics in your relationship with your partner, you may be in an unhealthy relationship.

• Controlling Behavior - They come on strong and quickly become jealous. Beware of someone who falls deeply in love with you instantly and insists on being with you at all times.  Pressing for an early commitment and wanting to know where you are all the time are signs of control issues.  Don’t be fooled by the myth that possessiveness and jealously is romantic and a sign of love, its a sign of controlling behavior.

• Conforming Behavior - They want you to conform to them.  They criticize your ideas, belittle your feelings, and make you afraid to disagree. They discourage you from being yourself, but rather what they want you to be.

• Isolating Behavior - They attempt to isolate you from friends, family,  activities and interests. They need to be involved and managing everything that you do.  You have to justify what you do, where you go, and who you see. They attempt to slowly gain control over all aspects of your life.

• Psychotic Behavior - Their behavior is erratic, unpredictable, and mysterious. Unpredictable mood swings or behaviors. Dropping out of sight for periods of time, being frequently unavailable, being less than forthcoming about ways to contact them. These can be a sign of issues that interfere with forming lasting relationships or of someone with a hidden life such as addictions or even another relationship.

• Disjointed Behavior - Their life doesn’t “jell.” A pattern of forgotten commitments, poor follow through, and missed deadlines can be signs of someone who will continue through life without ever “getting it together.”

• Contradictory Behavior - They confuse you.  There is an inconsistency between what they say and what they do.  Perhaps you are being told what they think you want to hear or are trying to impress you.

• Selfish Behavior - They are self centered.  If they are only thinking of themselves, they will ignore your thoughts and feelings. They will make all the decisions.  They will answer for you instead of letting you decide.  If you get cut off in the middle of a sentence, they obviously weren’t really listening. Take it as a warning, you don’t matter to them.

• Abusive Behavior - They have no respect for other people and their feelings. They behave badly with others. Even if their behavior towards you is fine, if they treat others with abuse, dishonesty, disrespect or manipulation, its pretty likely your turn is coming. Abuse can be in the form of verbal, physical, emotional, or even psychological abuse.   Don’t stand for it. Respect yourself enough to not tolerate disrespect or abuse from anyone.

• Irresponsible Behavior - They don’t take responsibility for their own actions. When ever things go wrong, it is because “they are idiots,”  “the rules are stupid,” or “the professor was out to get me.” They always portray themselves as the victim. If they can’t see how their own behavior contributed to the problem, eventually they will blame you for what is wrong.

• Aggressive Behavior -  Their temper scares you.  Angry, jealous or controlling behavior will likely get more frightening or violent over time. If you get a hint of violent tendencies you better wake up and not wait around for it to happen. Once it happens its too late.

• Manipulative Behavior - They force you to do things you don’t want to do. They pressure you to be more physically intimate than you are comfortable. They may pressure and manipulate you to get you in a situation where they have the upper hand. Remember, forced sexual contact is sexual assault and is illegal.

• Alarming Behavior - Finally, learn to listen to your spider senses.  They will usually give you a feeling that something is wrong. If you sense you are in an unhealthy relationship and your internal alarms began to ring, you need to listen carefully to your inner voice, because that is an important clue that things may not be what they ought to be.

Hope it helps,

For additional relationship information or advice on how to get out of an unhealthy relationship visit our website at www.prelationship.com.

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