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So you’re the maid of honor at the upcoming wedding. Here are some useful tips to make your Maid of honor wedding speech a memorable one.

First lets talk about what is expected from you as the Maid of Honor. The maid of honor has a high-ranking position in a wedding. She is the brides’ aide and helps the bride with hair, makeup, as well as dressing. The maid of honor is most of the time the brides’ best friend but is not married; this is where the title maid of honor comes from a Maid is unwed.

The Maid of honor will also stand on the side of the bride during the ceremony and is dressed to match the brides Maids, these are other close friends of the bride as well.

Once the wedding ceremony is finished and the bride and the groom are now husband and wife. The wedding participants and guests usually move to another location for the reception. This is a celebration for family and guests to congratulate the husband and wife on their new journey through life. The reception is the time families introduce themselves and become acquainted with each other. This is because now the wedding, the family of the groom, also joins two families and the family of the bride all become one larger family.

The reception is also where the groom, bride, best man, maid of honor and any other members involved stand up and make short speeches in honor or the bride and the groom. The Maid of honor’s speech usually directed towards the bride and will tell things like how wonderful a friend the bride is to all her friends. The speech usually focuses on the best qualities of the bride and areas where the bride is the strongest and what one quality everyone loves about the bride the most.

The Maid of honors speech is much like the speech the best man gives only it brings out the special quality and gentleness of the bride. This is from the best friend of the bride, the one person who knows the bride better than almost any one else. The Maid of honors speech is spoken with true love and honesty and expresses her devotion to her best friend the bride. No other person in the brides’ life could say these words like A Maid of honor can.

The maid of honor and the bride are the very best of friends and the emotion they feel for each other often comes out during the maid of honor’s speech. Tears of  joy sometimes fill the room during the Maid of honor’s speech. This is because she is happy that her friend, the bride, has found her soul mate.

Even though the bride is now married, she and the Maid of honor will remain best friends. This bond does not end when a woman gets married. The bride and Maid of honor will constantly be there for each other. During the entire reception, no other speech will be like the one given by the maid of honor.

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So your the best man and you have the awesome responsibility to deliver the BestManSpeech. Here are six helpful tips for making a good and memorable speech that the groom and the bride would be proud of.

Tip #1: Validate your qualifications to be the best man.

The role of the best man is an important role in a wedding. In addition to the real task of keeping the groom together throughout the ceremony, the groom’s role is also to provide visible support for the new couple. Because of this great responsibility, the person chosen to be the best man is usually the groom’s best friend. This friend has probably grown up with the groom from a very young age and they may have gone to high school together and may have even had similar dating experiences which include all the wild nights and parties, they shared together. Or maybe the best man is someone the groom became very close to after his wild days were over. In preparing your BestManSpeech, remember to explain how you are qualified to speak on behalf of the groom and give examples of the closeness you share. Let the audience know you are a subject matter expert when it comes to the groom. Make sure you emphasize that you want the groom to be happy and will respect his decision as to not only who he chooses to marry but also when he chooses to marry.

Tip #2: Share your insight into the groom that others may not know.

Sometimes it is difficult for a best friend to share the details of his friendship with the groom with anyone else that may become involved with the groom. Many times a story may seem good to share but the story may lose its impact when explained to the audience. It may be an experience you can’t easily explain. You would have had to be there to really appreciate it. Avoid these kinds of stories but rather look for stories that show a side of the groom that no one else would even imagine, especially the bride to be. This will make your BestManSpeech a memorable one.

Tip #3: Keep it light and positive.

The best friend should give a speech to the new couple that reflects some of the good, positive experiences they shared in the past. He should refrain from any negative experiences that would put the groom in a bad light. He should also speak of new, future experiences to come and offer best wishes to the newly wedded couple. To really be effective, the BestManSpeech must be sincere, meaningful, and tactful so not to hurt anyone’s feeling. Words of true friendship should be expressed as only the very best friend can put them. The best man must also remember that weddings are not the place for stories from the good old days that are not proper wedding conversation or subjects of discussion. Topics of this nature are usually embarrassing to both the groom and the bride or may be offensive to the guests.

Tip #4: Offer good, simple advice that will help the couple.

The best friend usually knows the groom much better than anyone else in the bridal party and maybe even better than the groom’s own parents do. Therefore, it is common for the best man to offer some good advice to the new bride during the BestManSpeech. The new bride should take the words of wisdom to heart for the future of the marriage. The best man’s job is also to encourage the groom and affirm that he is doing the right thing for both he and his new wife. The BestManSpeech can also include things about the groom that make the bride feel safe being married to the groom and feel secure about their future in the marriage together.

Tip #5: Keep it lively, humor is always in order.

The wedding celebration is a happy occasion. The last thing you want to do is deliver a dead, boring BestManSpeech that puts a damper on the celebration. Therefore, the best man usually begins his speech at the wedding celebration by telling a good tasteful joke about weddings or marriages. He may mention some funny things the groom may have done in the past and then mention how level headed the groom is now. He can include some humorous factors about the groom that others may not know but always reassuring the new bride about her husband. Make sure it clear to the audience that he, as the groom’s best friend, hopes to become a close friend to the new bride and her family as well. Whatever you do, don’t try to be deep and give marriage counseling advice. That’s not the place for it. Keep it light.

Tip #6: Choose a style that fits you.

Nearly every speech given at any wedding by the best man generally sounds the same and says the same thing. So you, as the best man, need to find things to add that no one else could possibly think of and find entertaining ways to wish your closest and dearest friends the best of everything for their future together. Whether you choose to be lighthearted and funny as many best men are at weddings or chillingly serious, you need to make sure your best man’s speech fits you and your personality. If you do not have a humorous personality, don’t try to give a humorous speech. Give a speech that matches your personality. Make sure the message is that you want to see your best friend, the groom, happy in a lasting marriage. As an incentive, remember, if the new bride trusts you as the best man and her husband’s best friend and believes that you want the best for them in their marriage, chances are the two of you will still be able to hang out and have fun after the wedding.

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The makings of a Best Man’s Speech

If you find yourself in the predicament where you have to provide the Best Man’s Speech at an upcoming wedding, don’t fear. Take heart, it’s not as difficult as it appears. You are probably just the right person to deliver the speech whether you know it or not. Here are some tips for making a memorable speech that the groom would be proud of.

Generally, the person chosen to be the best man is the groom’s best friend. This friend has probably grown up with the groom from a very young age and they may have gone to high school together and may have even had similar dating experiences which include all the wild nights and parties, they shared together. Or maybe the best man is someone the groom became very close to after his wild days were over.

It is usually the job of the best man to provide a wedding speech in honor of the groom. Sometimes it is difficult for a best friend to share the details of his friendship with the groom with anyone else that may become involved with the groom. In addition, the best friend may know a side of the groom that no one else would even imagine, especially the bride to be. In any case, the best friend must accept the possibility that all the fun times they have shared in the past must come to an abrupt stop once his friend the groom says I do, although this, in reality, is not always the case. Therefore, a true best friend will want his best friend the groom to be happy and will respect his decision as to not only who he chooses to marry but also when he chooses to marry.

The best friend should give a speech to the new couple that reflects some of the good, positive experiences they shared in the past. He should refrain from any negative experiences that would put the groom in a bad light. He should also speak of new, future experiences to come and offer best wishes to the newly wedded couple. To really be effective, the best man’s speech must be sincere, meaningful, and tactful so not to hurt anyone’s feeling. Words of true friendship should be expressed as only the very best friend can put them. The best man must also remember that weddings are not the place for stories from the good old days that are not proper wedding conversation or subjects of discussion. Topics of this nature are usually embarrassing to both the groom and the bride or may be offensive to the guests.

The best friend usually knows the groom much better than anyone else in the bridal party and maybe even better than the groom’s own parents do. Therefore it is common for the best man to offer some good advice to the new bride during his speech. The new bride should take the words of wisdom to heart for the future of the marriage. The best man’s job is also to encourage the groom and affirm that he is doing the right thing for both he and his new wife. The speech can include things about the groom that make the bride feel safe being married to the groom and feel secure about their future in the marriage together.

The best man usually begins his speech at the wedding celebration by telling a good tasteful joke about weddings or marriages. Then mentions how level headed the groom is and how the groom always thinks before he acts. He may include a mention of how long he has known the groom and sprinkle facts about the friendship. He can include important factors he thinks will reassure the new bride about her husband. He should also mention the fact that he, as the grooms best friend, hopes to become a close friend to the new bride and her family as well.

Nearly every speech given at any wedding by the best man generally sounds the same and says the same thing. So you, as the best man, need to find things to add that no one else could possibly think of and find entertaining ways to wish your closest and dearest friends the best of everything for their future together. Whether you choose to be lighthearted and funny as many best men are at weddings or chillingly serious, you need to make sure your best man’s speech says exactly what you would give to see your best friend, the groom, happy in a lasting marriage. If the new bride trusts you as the best man and her husband’s best friend and believes that you want the best for them in their marriage, chances are the two of you will still be able to hang out and have fun after the wedding.

This article reflects my experience as a groom and a best man with wedding speeches. For more information and detailed examples of all types of wedding speeches, visit BestManSpeech.

Being in a relationship is great when things are going fine. But we’ve all had our fair share of relationships that go south and turn into unhealthy, unproductive or just a plain ole’ bad relationships.  What do you do when you find yourself in this  situation? When it gets to that point you should probably break it off, but I agree it’s often times easier said than done.  Don’t worry, help is on the way. Here are some relationship tips and insights on how to successfully end a bad relationship.   These tips are incorporated in the 5 steps below that will help you break off an unhealthy relationship:

1) Think it through Thoroughly

Weigh the pros and cons of your relationship and understand the bottom line. Will I be better off without this relationship? In Tyler Perry’s movie “Why Did I Get Married?”  the troubled couple was asked to take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the center. On one side, put (+) and this represents the “deposits” or the positive things that the person adds to your life. Then, honestly ask yourself, what are all the things you gain from the relationship? What does the person add to your life? How have you grown from the relationship? What are the qualities and attributes that the person possesses? On the other side of the paper, put (-) and this represents the withdrawals or the things that are a drain on you. It could be negative traits, such as the person is untrustworthy, undependable, had cheated. It could be drama or fighting that comes from the relationship. It could be personal sacrifices that you’ve had to make. Or it could be that your mate doesn’t respect you, your time, your money, etc. Whatever it is, put it down and be honest.

Once you’ve written everything out, tally the responses and your (+) should far outweigh your (-). This simple exercise should help you to take inventory of your relationship.

2) Check your motives and “To thine own self be true!”
Often times we stay in less than ideal circumstances because we either don’t think we’re worth it or we’re afraid that we won’t find anything better. But, the real questions you should be considering are, “are you fulfilled in the relationship?” and “does your mate treat with you dignity and respect?” If you can’t answer yes to these questions, then it’s time to start packing. You have to consider your true interests in staying in an unhealthy relationship. Is it simply because you’ve been together for a while and now you’re comfortable? Or could it be that you’ll miss the companionship or a warm body at night? Reexamine your motives for staying, especially if you are being mistreated; not getting the very best; or if you typically find yourself in bad relationships. Ask yourself, “Do I want better for myself?”

Know your worth and realize that you do deserve better. It may be painful, but you can become a better you and attract someone who will treat you the way you deserve.   So, spend your time focusing only on what you stand to gain from breaking off the relationship, instead of what you stand to lose and believe that you will be much better off in the end.

3) Plan Your Exit Strategy
Once you’ve decided to get out of the relationship, you have to develop an exit strategy. This involves cutting ties and putting up space between you and your mate. It sounds mean, but its critical to you moving on because otherwise you will end up in a cycle of break-up to make-up. You may need to sever all ties and this might include changing your phone number, putting some distance between the mutual friends that you and your mate shared or even moving into a different apartment. You have to disconnect yourself from the life you and your mate had together, so that you can move on and grow.

4) No, We Can’t Still be Friends!
Sometimes when someone has had a profound effect on your life (whether it’s a positive or negative impact), the fact is that it’s going to be hard to let go. So, don’t complicate matters by trying to “just be friends” right away. The likelihood that your former mate will go from being the love of your life to your homeboy or homegirl overnight is just not that high. The relationship took time to develop and its going to take time for you to get over that person. So, do yourself a favor and don’t try to be friends right away.

5) Turn the Page and Move on
The hardest part of ending a relationship is often the part that involves letting go. There is a natural grieving process over the loss of the relationship because most likely, there were experiences shared and memories made. However, that alone does not warrant you staying in a relationship that is unproductive. Turn the page and move on. Embrace the fact that as you let go, you will be growing and becoming a better you. It’s almost like a purging and cleansing process, because you are getting rid of the old, to make room for the new. You are disposing of the toxins, so that you can welcome the new blessings that are coming your way.

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This is a great video and a reminder of how we should relate to those we love and care about and make every effort to speak their “love language.”  By doing this you will “fill their love tank” and allow them to be satisfied and fulfilled in the relationship.  We must make an effort to figure out what touches the heart of those we are in relationship with (which includes our spouse, close friends and even our children) because this will enable us to best respond to them.  For more on the Five Love Languages, read my recent posts at www.prelationship.com.  Otherwise, just watch the video and enjoy!

Welcome back to the third chapter of the 12 Power Principles To Enrich Your Relationship series. I hope you have studied part one and part two of this series and have begun to put these principles into action in your everyday relationships. If you have, I’m sure you’re beginning to see the benefits and the improvements in your day to day relationships. These relationship tips are applicable to any type of relationship, whether it’s Professional, Dating, Love, or Marriage.

In this segment we will discuss dynamic people skills that, when employed in the right manner, make you a person others want to be in relationship with. These are skills that will draw other people to you if you use them in the right manner. Yes, these really do work but you must spend the necessary time to practice and hone in your skills to get the most benefit from them. Don’t expect to be an expert over night.

7.) The Power of Small Talk
It’s been said that it’s the little things that make a difference in building a strong relationship. Well in the same way it’s the small talk that breaks the ice and develops the rapport that leads to strong connections. Most people don’t like the idea of small talk because there seems to be no purpose. But they fail to understand that it is the gateway to friendship, a new acquaintances and the key to making people comfortable in your presence.

Small talk is the seed from which conversation and relationship grow. Ever been in a situation when that eerie silence hits and you just don’t know what to say? It unavoidable in most cases but you can overcome it by being prepared with your own injection of small talk. The tenseness of the situation is quickly soothed with a small dose of small talk. People are always waiting for someone else to break the ice. You step forward and do it.

8.) The Power of Listening
One thing to always remember is “You never learn a thing while your talking” and “The friends who listen to us are the ones we move towards and want to sit in their company.” Listening is the heart of communication. It’s by listening to others that you learn. But poor listening skills often lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and missed opportunities to develop trust, rapport, and strong relationships. Here are some quick tips to follow to improve your listening skills:

1) Show interest in people and what they are saying. Don’t pretend to listen when you are only waiting to talk or thinking about what you are going to say next.
2) Make eye contact and focus on the other person. Avoid being a distracted listener. That can be more annoying than not listening at all.
3) Be eager to learn from the conversations. Ask questions to show that you are engaged. Don’t be a know it all.
4) The amount of attention you give to a person when they are talking reflects the amount of value you place on that person.
Nourish their sense of self worth by giving them the necessary attention.
5) Supportive listening honors their thinking and allows them to freely release their thoughts. Honor them by giving them your supportive, non-judgmental ear.

9.) The Power of Speaking up
We all must learn the fine skill of speaking up. Many times we are afraid that we may come off as bragging or being aggressive. But the truth is, people are attracted and drawn to people that are confident and out-spoken in a positive way. Contrary to popular beliefs, men are attracted to women that have “spunk” and that speak up in a positive and professional manner. They know what they want, and are not afraid to voice their opinion about what they like and/or dislike. They have fresh and creative ideas that they are willing to share and will not just sit around and wait for someone else to come up with something. Guys, if you really want to make a lasting impression with the ladies, learn to introduce yourself with pride and confidence and see how they respond to you. The key is taking the initiative to speak up.

That’s it for now. Remember, once you have mastered all 12 of these relationship principles and know how to apply them in every aspect of your life, you will have a consistently rich, rewarding, and long lasting relationship.

For those of you who are new to the dating scene, I have some quick dating tips to share with you. These dating tips are to remind you of the six important dating standards or rules when going out on a date.  Follow these dating tips carefully and you will ensure a healthy, safe, and rewarding dating experience. Ignore these dating tips and you could find yourself in a bad situation that could possibly ruin your life.

Dating Tip #1) Give someone like your parents, guardian, or best friend background information on the person with whom you will have a date. It’s better to share this information with someone before the date so that if something goes wrong, someone will at least have a clue about who you are with.

Dating Tip #2) Tell you parents or guardian your exact plans.  The key is to be as exact as possible.  That way they will know where you are and what your plans are.  If your plans change, as often they do, let them know. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

Dating Tip #3) Arrange for safe and reliable transportation.  Never leave it up to chance. The worst feeling in the world is to be stranded somewhere with no way to get home.  Make sure you have a plan A and a plan B.

Dating Tip#4) Establish a reasonable curfew.  Remember, a curfew is not when you will leave to come home, it’s when you will arrive a home.  Many people have good intentions about keeping a curfew but few plan ahead to ensure they keep it. Make the necessary plans and arrangements to see that you make it home on time.

Dating Tip#5) Establish you code of conduct. To be effective this must be done BEFORE the date.  Know before hand what you limits are. Make sure you establish them based on your own convictions and principles.  Don’t allow someone else to influence you into conduct that you are not agreeable with.

Dating Tip #6) Establish the expected code of conduct for the person you date.  Do not compromise on what you will tolerate.  Make sure you communicate this to the person you date before the date and make sure you stick to your guns.  If the date does not comply with the expected code of conduct, let them  know the date is over.  Say goodnight and make your way home. Never settle for less that your expectations.

Use these dating tips and you will have a worry free, enjoyable, safe, and memorable dating experience.

Hope it helps,

Conflicts between you and your partner are inevitable. But how you handle these conflicts will determine your level of happiness together and the ultimate success of your relationship. There’s plenty of  relationship advice out there for handling conflicts.  Many relationship experts will give you countless tips on how to avoid relationship conflicts altogether. But hopefully by now you understand that relationship conflicts are a part of growing together and are not to be avoided, but rather successfully managed. It has been my experience that countless couples have successfully managed their conflicts by making one powerful yet surprisingly simple communication tweak : Both partners choose to use “I” statements instead of “you” statements.

Now most will say they’ve heard this before and know it has to do with owning their own stuff and not pointing the finger at their partner. But there’s a lot more involved and when you talk to the average person most will admit that they don’t really practice this technique or reap its full benefits very often.

An “I” statement is this:  “I am sharing my experience concerning this conflict situation. Therefore, no one is more qualified to be an expert on me and my experience. So when I say “I”, this allows me cover anything about this conflict. Anything about my perceptions, fears, concerns, or desires. I can discuss my contribution to the problem and my contribution to the resolution of it.  I can cover multiple bases without running the risk of that judgmental, critical,  evaluative thing that happens when I speak up about your intentions, motivations, using you behavior as evidence.”

For those of us who need the cookies lowered so we can reach them (i.e. you didn’t understand that last paragraph) don’t feel bad. I’ll give you an example I think all of us can understand.   An “I” statement goes like this:  “When you raise your voice the way you just did, I feel defensive. I start to get annoyed and I feel like walking away.”   Using the “I” statement, I have stated the issue about the volume being raised but I didn’t judge you.  Nothing I said was subject to interpretation.  I stated a simple fact.  Even in the heat of conflict, a fact cannot be disputed.

When I maintain the perspective of “I”, it means I can say anything about the  impact this is having on me without judging you. But on the other hand, when I express those same experiences using “you” statements, this sets me up for angry outbursts of  “You don’t know what you’re talking about,” or “Quit telling me what I think, you don’t know what I think.”

A variation of the “I” statement is the “my” statement - my perception, my feeling, my hunch, etc. For example:  “It’s my perception that you’re angry with me.” or “My perception when you walk away, is that you’re not interested in talking.” This is received much better than the statements, “I can tell you’re angry with me.” or “I can tell you’re not interested in talking.”  These statements are bound to cause an argument and the discussion will shutdown.

With an “I” statement or “my” statement, it takes all the guessing out of the situation. You have cut right to the chase and said what you meant. You have given the whole package: 1) Here’s what happened. 2) Here’s my interpretation, 3) Here’s how I feel about it. 4) Here’s my request. This will put you a lot closer to conflict resolution, kissing and making up, and moving on to that perfect relationship.

Practice this technique before your next argument and you’ll both come out winners.

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As you go through life you will always face challenges in your relationships but remember, every relationship problem is just another opportunity to gain a greater appreciation for the ones you are in relationship with. Over the years I have learned that the power of your relationship is measured by the  amount of human interaction (both good and bad) and the personal value generated by that interaction. That’s why a proper dating relationship is so important. It is an opportunity for each of you to grow individually as a person and together as a couple.  It will allow you to develop a bond with your partner that will carry over into your marriage (if it leads to that) or result in a lasting relationship that will last a lifetime.

In Part One of this subject we addressed the first three power principles that exemplify the natural desire to relate to others in a harmonious and mutually supportive manner. Here are the next three power principles that can revolutionize your ability to maintain a healthy relationship.  Once you have mastered all 12 of these relationship principles and know how to apply them in every aspect of your life, you will have a consistently rich, rewarding, and long lasting relationship.

Principle 4 - The Power of Praise

An attitude of gratitude provides the nourishment for a healthy relationship that will naturally grow and blossom. We must learn to freely express gratitude and appreciation to our partners. We may think,”Oh they know I appreciate them” or “They know I love them.” Don’t let those thoughts get in the way of expressing your appreciation.  Be generous, spontaneous,  and sincere in passing along your thoughts of gratitude and appreciation. People are hungry for appreciation and positive reinforcement. Give them a full serving.

The secret to mastering this principle is being creative in your expression. There are two main ways people express their appreciation 1) Verbally (speaking in person or over the phone, 2) Non-verbally with notes, cards and actions.  Be spontaneous, be sincere, and be consistent and most of all be unpredictable.

Principle 5 - The Power of Staying in Touch

A wise man once said “One of the greatest gifts you can give to anyone is the gift of your attention.”  A great way to cultivate your relationship for growth is through constant action and interaction.  Taking time from your busy schedule just to touch base with a person is one of the highest forms of flattery. It says to the other person that they rank high on your priority list and that you are constantly on their mind.  That’s a lot better than to hear the normal statement, “Oh, I meant to call you but I got busy.” What does that say to your partner? It says “I’ll get to you when I can fit you in.”  “I was thinking of you” sounds great but “I was thinking of you and couldn’t help but give you a call just to hear your voice..” sounds so much better.   Tip: Every opportunity you seize to stay in touch is another opportunity to build your relationship.   Grab another brick every chance you get.

Principle 6 - The Power of Connecting

Building a strong connection with your partner begins with building a strong connection with one’s self. Building a strong sense of self will give you the confidence to approach relationship challenges in a positive manner without them affecting your self esteem.  Know who you are, and your personal goals and purpose so that you are defined by your own decisions and not by the relationship. Develop a clarity of your values and what is important to you and keep them in the forefront of your mind. Then your partner will be able to connect with you and become a powerful support system to enrich your life and enable you to accomplish your purpose.

In the same manner, you need to learn to connect with your partner and appreciate their personal goals, values,  and purpose.  Find their hot button (what turns them on emotionally)  and push it often. Take time to periodically discuss what is important in life and learn to appreciate your partner’s personal purpose, goals and dreams. Never criticize or belittle, but always be a source of encouragement. Look for opportunities to support them in accomplishing what they desire and learn to be their biggest cheerleader.  This will pay big dividends in developing a strong connection in your relationship.

These are the second group of principles, check back for the remainder of the principles. In the mean time, as homework, start focusing on these three and you’ll be one your way to enriching you relationship more than ever imagined.

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Keeping a marriage relationship alive and vibrant requires work. It may be surprising to some but as years pass in a marriage, the effort required to keep it alive and vibrant increases. Here are some marital tips to help make the work a little easier for the women.  These relationship tips for women are essential building blocks for keeping your man interested and keeping your marriage alive.

We know that a man can lose interest in the woman he loves, even his wife.  Many women are tearful as they recount the last few months (or years) of their marriage that seemed so wonderful in the beginning. Slowly, they notice that he has stopped touching them as often and seems uninterested in being with them or even staying married. They pass each other in the kitchen, and he avoids eye contact and simply continues walking…just like she doesn’t even exist. But it doesn’t have to end that way. You can save your marriage. With a smile and a wink!!

Here’s what a husband needs:
In a marriage, there is a level of vulnerability that a man has with his wife that he doesn’t experience with anyone else.  Because she is, or has been, the focus of his attention and the primary source of his self-esteem, there are two things that always arouse his desire for her.

1) His desire is aroused when his wife does things that make her happy. There is only one goal for a husband in a marriage- to make his wife happy. If he feels that he can make her happy, then he feels strong and powerful. The secret is that he wants her to do things for herself that make her happy and not simply rely on him to fill that role. A wife who puts too much pressure on her husband to make her happy will slowly strangle the romantic feelings that he has for her. Take the initiative today and smile.

2) Men need women to remember to flirt. It’s easy to get comfortable in a marriage. Don’t get too comfortable. Every woman knows in the early stages of dating to flirt with a man. Smiling at him, paying attention to his stories and batting your eyelids all may seem silly….but they work. After all, if this behavior were so silly, would you want his secretary doing those things to him?

Whether it seems fair or not, women are the ones who initiate a relationship through their flirting. Men may approach a woman, but it is usually after he feels he has received some signal (invitation) from her. Wives who wait for their husband to be romantic don’t understand that men respond to a woman’s cues. If you stop flirting, for a long enough period of time, it’s likely that he’ll notice some other woman who is willing to fill that void. It doesn’t mean that it’s right, but he needs your admiration more than you realize. Take the initiative and give him a sexy wink.

Hope it helps,