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How do you stop loving someone who you are DEEPLY in love with, but for various reasons the relationship doesn’t work. You love them but you can’t be with them? How do you turn off your emotions? Especially when you have to see this person everyday, Here’s some breakup advice that will help you get over it and move on.

It’s obvious that you must limit your interaction with this person. NO more phone calls. With time, any emotional attachment and feelings will subside after a while. Detach yourself from the delusion first. You need to come to realization that you two can’t be together. Not sure why you got yourself in this situation to begin with, BUT you’re there, so how you do release yourself from a painful reality?

First remove all things that remind you of this person; any pictures, phone messages, text messages etc.. If  you see this person daily at work for instance, walk the other way. Keep it professional no matter how hard it is. Concentrate and utilize mind over matter.

Remember, it’s never easy to turn your emotions off. You can’t help it. Start filling that void with something else to occupy your time. Don’t read a book, its useless. You’re not gonna be able to concentrate.  Go out and be amongst your friends.

Because you are “Deeply” in love, sex probably played a factor. Needless to say you must show restraint. Don’t continue to have sex anymore. You have to be strong.  Understand you are only setting yourself up to get hurt. You have to take the first step if you don’t want to feel this yearning and desire anymore. Only you have control over your feelings and emotions. Don’t look to the person you are dealing with to help you with this.

But if you are seeing a married man-STOP NOW! Do yourself a favor. He is not gonna leave his wife. Don’t get caught up. You know better. If you are married, same advice. I hope your spouse doesn’t find out. But seriously, you must find a way to detach yourself.

Personally, you will be fine. Forgive yourself and love yourself enough not to get caught up in a situation like this again. The healing process is not gonna be easy.  Have patience. Don’t be too hard on yourself but get out now. Save your sanity and your dignity. Find someone you can be with without stipulations.

So many people are in relationships that have gone bad but instead of breaking up, dealing with reality and moving on they stay  in the relationship trying to salvage what they can. This is simply because they refuse to acknowledge the signs that the relationship is over.  Here’s some quick breakup advice for those in this situation. Here are some signs to look for to let you know, for a fact, that a relationship is over.

Love is an incredibly beautiful thing but sometimes it just simply has to come to an end and this opens the age old dilemma—how to break up from a relationship. There are various reasons why people break up. Break up moments are usually filled with high emotions — at least for one person and associated drama. Break ups are tricky things to go through but the following break up advice could make handling the process a little easier.

Understand your reasons: Okay. So you want to break up. The first question is not really how to break up but why you want to break up. Understanding the reasons behind your break up will provide a more peaceful transition. You will also be able to explain to your partner when he or she inevitably asks you. Understanding your reasons will also provide you with closure. Knowing the reason why you could not be with a person, will prevent you from suddenly breaking into worried doubts of your possible past.

Confront your emotions. Be honest about your feelings. Most people go through a break up by trying to bottle their emotions. There is nothing wrong with doing a little soul search. There is absolutely nothing wrong with crying. Break-ups put a lot of stress on the mental and psychological will of an individual. Bottling up all the stress will just prove detrimental in the long run. By facing the situations and reasons leading up to the break up, you will be able to shorten the transition process of heartache.

Keep a distance. It is common for people who have just broken up to want to maintain some form of continued friendship. There is nothing wrong with this in the long run. But in the early weeks following a break-up it is best if you two do not spend too much time together. Early proximity will only result in resentment, anger, guilt and a possible reunion — which will prove detrimental if your reasons for a break up were noteworthy.